Being 'Cocky and Funny' is
an attraction idea that you have to learn. It will change you but it doesn't
have to 'change you', if you can understand how it attracts women and how to
incorporate this technique/attitude into your life.
***Question from a
reader***
Hey Dave....
I'm a premed student who has been subscribing to your newsletter for quite a
while now.
Anyway, I've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is smart,
attractive, and funny. the way I landed her was by being cocky funny.
EXTREMELY cocky funny. I was always one step ahead of her. It was kind of
like "Don't even TRY to challenge me, I'm already inside your head!".
everything was cool.
But to tell the truth (and no offense) I just kind of got tired of the
constant effort.....so I cooled it off a bit not always seizing the
opportunity to remind her just who it is she's dealing with. And I think I
got screwed. Now I feel like I've turned into a wuss....and I HATE IT!!!
no.. I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!!
When I turn on the macho act she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone
to whom I can genuinely be.... just nice to, with her appreciating it and
NOT taking advantage. I mean since this is a long-term relationship I want
someone who will give me a smooth ride without all that continuous
maintenance.
I don't wanna be cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just
wants to relax. Is it possible?
F.Z, Lebanon
David DeAngelo
>>>My Reply:
Ooooooo, good question.
I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be Cocky and Funny and
to stay in control change.
As they're learning the techniques, they become more and more attractive to
women. Then, they meet a really amazing woman - a woman that was previously
"out of their league", and they decide to start a relationship.
As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to put aside the things
that worked, and start being more and more submissive... which, of course,
drives this new woman away.
Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet and a good guy but
still have all the super hot women calling me 24/7".
Here's what I say:
"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVILEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN, NOT A RIGHT.
And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes to make women feel
ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to NOT drive women away, then make these
things part of "YOURSELF".
Are you with me here?
The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys means "being the type
of guy that women don't feel any ATTRACTION for".
If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION, then there's
really nothing I can do to help you. If you're not willing to do the work
and make the changes more or less permanent, then you're going to have a
long uphill battle.
And in your case, you have to realize that this woman was attracted to you
for a REASON, and if you stop that REASON, then you're going to stop the
ATTRACTION.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I
learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it's also taken
a lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and
on audio and video... so that any guy can learn from the things I've
discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of
hours you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all from
the comfort and privacy of your own home.
The reason I wrote my original eBook "Double Your Dating" was because I
wanted to be able to help other guys out there to understand how to be
successful with women and dating... without having to go through all the
hassles and wasted time that I had to deal with.
I invite you to check it out.
I mean, you'll never reach a
point where you never have any problems with women, but you sure can prevent
and eliminate about 80% of them by just knowing what to do to set up each
step with women, and how to respond to certain situations.
If you'd like an introduction to my main concepts and techniques, then you
need to start with my eBook, Double Your Dating. It's the foundation for
everything that I teach in these articles, and it's a MUST-read. It's here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate
all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your
stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the
specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of
the email. I read these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're
from.
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