What I am going
to do today, is untangle a pervasive myth.
No, this isn't some tirade against women who are NOT western or
American. Not about that at all. What I am going to do today, is
UNTANGLE a pervasive myth.
A myth about "western" and "American" women, a myth that views these
women as if they are aliens OR as if they are so different, OR as if
they are "evil".
It's almost FUNNY when I see guys, even guys that have all the
stereotypical "pluses" going for them, like being tall or having money
or having good looks, whining their asses off about how "foreign" women
are "better", and how "tough" it is with western or "American" women.
I don't know if these guys are local or foreign themselves, and/or if
they are simply not "getting any" from western or American women, or if
they can't ACHIEVE HARMONY with western or American women.
It's a myth used and abused by many, sometimes because they don't know
the truth, and sometimes this myth is spread by those who KNOW BETTER,
but want to DISTORT the truth anyway for selfish reasons.
So this newsletter is for those confused or who may have been
brainwashed by wretched LIES to believe that the ANSWER to their women
issues is to find a woman from ABROAD.
The idea they try to promote is that American or even sometimes the idea
that "western" women are spoiled, and that "foreign" women are much
better for relationships, or better for whatever the heck else they
might say.
Some folks out there will try to tell you that there is a problem with
western or American women.
You know, I MYSELF used to wonder a bit about this.
BEFORE I finally "GOT" it.
But I am human, and open to LEARNING. In fact, I believe in LIFELONG
learning. And learn I did. I never FULLY believed the "foreign women"
lie, but I thought maybe there was some truth to it.
There are guys out there (some who call themselves "experts" -
yikes!!!!!) who will go on and on (yawn) about how it's a whole big
science to understand the difference between cultures and countries if
you want to do well with women, and they will especially go on and on
about how foreign women are "better behaved".
Look, for a short while, I was curious about this stuff, so I decided to
thoroughly look into it.
THOROUGHLY.
Never mind that the whole idea is suspicious anyway, because we all know
that there is HUGE VARIATION amongst ALL INDIVIDUALS. So for example,
does anyone REALLY think that at a "religious" school, that all the kids
there are "more moral" than at say, a PUBLIC school or secular school?
Let me tell you something, you can't INSTITUTIONALIZE or FORCE good
character.
You can promote it, but only through TOTAL LIFESTYLE changes.
It's not about the school you go to, or the country in which you live,
unless that school or country truly controls every aspect of your
private life. Hence, dictatorships can truly mold people for evil, by
controlling every aspect of people's lives.
If anything, PARENTS influence children the most and therefore play the
greatest role in shaping each successive generation and culture.
Hey, I like some of Madonna's music, and I think she is a great
businesswoman for sure, but somehow I don't think her Catholic school
education is what shaped her music, except in the IRONIC sense possibly
of her ENTIRE CAREER being a REBELLION to it.
So LOCATION or OFFICIAL CULTURE means NOTHING when it comes to what a
PERSON is ACTUALLY like. (unless it is a total dictatorship, and even
there there will be those who behave in ways against the official
values)
I don't buy the b.s. argument that foreign women are more faithful, more
loyal, more loving, blah blah blah.
If anything, in many foreign countries, women are simply more controlled
and used to being controlled. They have less rights. And in MANY cases,
the women STILL RESIST whenever they CAN.
The bottom line is that if you are an UNCOOL person, a guy who doesn't
"get" it, then NO MATTER what woman you meet, you're going to have
problems on the attraction front. And without ATTRACTION, the only
reason a woman might be with a guy is because she has nothing else going
on.
Of course, with a woman who has no rights or power, there is "security"
in the sense she cannot leave him easily, so "emotional risk" you might
say is limited, but that is like saying that you should only play VIDEO
GAME versions of bike rides, to be safe, instead of actually riding your
bike. Yeah, it's safe and you prevent damage and falls, but it's not
REAL and it's not as exciting or meaningful or rewarding.
Hopefully I don't need to tell this to anyone, but foreign women, and
not just the mail order brides, and other women desperate to leave their
home countries, aren't the most reliable sources of information for how
they REALLY feel.
There is something called DECEIT. Something called using a guy for a
passport. Using a guy for money.
Why the heck would a gorgeous woman from say, Russia, want to hook up
with a totally UNCOOL guy with no sense of style, no sense of humor, no
excitement, not a cool bone in his body? Especially when she could
INSTANTLY change her reality and find a cooler guy?
Is it a SURPRISE to hear accounts of guys who didn't "get it", who got
married to such women, got her a passport, and then got dumped a few
months later?
Does this mean that ALL of these women, whether mail order brides, or
any foreign women that you meet, are illegit?
NOPE, I'm sure there are legitimate "quality" foreign women.
BUT THERE ARE A MILLION LEGIT QUALITY WOMEN RIGHT OUTSIDE YOUR FRONT
DOOR!
It's not about how FAR you travel to meet a woman, it's about HOW COOL
OF A PERSON YOU ARE.
If you HAVE what it takes, then suddenly TONS OF WOMEN are drawn to you,
REGARDLESS of where they are from. And if you DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW
ATTRACTION WORKS, and if you don't have this vibe about you, then even
if you travel all the way to another GALAXY, STILL, no woman will be
interested.
I kind of suspected this stuff, but wasn't always SURE, 100%, until
recent years.
Never mind that in a previous career, I already had over two years
experience working with and socializing with elites from all over the
world, which exposed me to tons of cultures from every continent, and
that I also have formal education in this area as well -- in fact my
second degree at university REVOLVED around appreciating the impact of
cultural diversity for communicating and educating others. And never
mind that Toronto, my hometown, is certainly one of the most ethnically,
culturally, and linguistically diverse cities in the world, if not THE
most diverse.
The truth is that having all this background in ADDITION to my
understanding of attraction HELPED, but it was like OVERKILL for
understanding a rather SIMPLE issue.
All you have to know about the whole "western women" or "American women"
vs. foreign women debate is:
American and western women have more FREEDOM.
They are not locked up.
They are allowed to vote.
They are allowed to drive a car.
They are allowed to express their sexuality.
They are allowed to STAND up against bullshit, like a guy who cheats on
them.
All this stuff sounds pretty damn GOOD to me.
Ummm, why would any guy want to LEAVE these women and go for a woman
because she comes from a place where she is DENIED freedom?
That's pathetic!
When guys start saying that American or western women are evil, and that
"foreign" women are "nicer", what they are really saying is that they
don't "get" it yet.
Which is not their fault, and in fact is one of the reasons I do what I
do - to clear up these things.
Once you understand the FULL picture, you start to realize that the REAL
problem is that most MEN in the west need to develop THEMSELVES to go
along with the times, because so many men are STILL behaving in a way
that only made sense a long time ago, when women DID NOT have these
freedoms.
Now that women HAVE these freedoms, women have more confidence,
self-esteem, etc. So men have to UNDERSTAND this and start being far
less formal with women. Far less "tip-toeing" around women. And far MORE
fun, confident, charming, interesting, and challenging.
A lot of men could learn from WOMEN about how to have a higher sense of
self-esteem, how to not accept bullshit, how to frame yourself as the
"prize" in a relationship or male-female interaction and how to get what
your worth in these situations, and how to have a better sense of humor,
etc etc.
Yeah, guys can learn a LOT from women. Even the fact that women tend to
pay more attention to fashion is something men can learn from as well.
It's all about creating EMOTIONAL IMPACT, something women know but too
many men ignore.
And it's NOT about being manipulative, unless you think that having
ATTRACTION POWER and being EXCITING AND FUN to be around is
manipulative.
There are other issues as well, such as the role of family, but this has
affected both men and women, and is not the fault of women. In the
1950's, both men and women were more marriage minded, more family
minded, and also it was more possible for only one person to work to
bring in the income. This made it easier to have a more stable family
life. It can still be done today, it's just a little more challenging.
And certainly, this does not make American or western women "bad" any
more than it makes men "bad" for having given women their freedoms!!!!
Now that I think about it, it actually took a lot of GUTS for western
society and men to do this.
Yeah, things have shaken up quite a bit and it's taking a bit of time
for both men and women to adjust perfectly, but ALL societies are
constantly adjusting to something, and do you really want women to be
locked up in a cage? If that's the only way you can feel secure with a
woman, that's NOT GOOD!!!
BUT YOU CAN CHANGE THIS!
It starts with realizing that the "problems" are more of sign of NOT
HAVING "THE SKILLS" with women, a sign of NOT UNDERSTANDING, a sign of
NOT having THE RIGHT SELF-CONCEPT.
American and western women often have HIGH STANDARDS.
They also have OPINIONS, they cannot be CONTROLLED or programmed like
ROBOTS.
They are often INDEPENDENTLY MINDED.
They are often EDUCATED.
They won't put up with BULLSHIT, like you cheating on them.
This is good s**t!!!
Why would you want a woman any other way?
Any other way would be pathetic, it would mean that the guy has no way
of actually attracting the women, that he must control them instead.
That's boring, creepy.
Pathetic.
The answer is not to change women, it's for
MEN to develop themselves!
To BE THE MAN.
As I've said for OVER THREE YEARS:
To be THE MAN.
Not ONE WORD has changed in my original book about this:
BE THE MAN.
One more time:
THE MAN.
Women want THE MAN. Nothing else can compete with this.
I've been STEADFAST in this, I didn't just release that book in a hurry.
And it has stood the test of time. No need for releasing a ton of other
books, unlike a lot of other folks who I guess needed to make up for
what was "missing" in theirs, and still do apparently, by dumping
endless more books on you, to get you hooked and addicted.
Once you yourself develop, it's SO MUCH more rewarding to be with a
woman who you know is with you because of CHOICE rather than because she
has NO OTHER CHOICE, or because she has little choice.
And for those who already have the book, I seriously recommend you
RE-READ IT again and again. It's the ONLY WAY for you to derive FULL
IMPACT, as each time you re-read it, it reinforces the ideas into your
mind and helps you stay on course and detoxify your brainwashed mind so
that you can build powerful momentum.
So the bottom line is, American and western women ROCK, and the way to
attract them is for you to come out and play your highest game. I mean
the word "game" in the very best sense of that word - that you give it
your best with all your passion, and that you enjoy the process and
bring up the entire game of those around you (the men and women around
you are only made BETTER by interacting with you) in the process, in the
same way Gretzky played his game.
And if you want to bring YOUR game up to it's highest level, I suggest
you download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women,
IMMEDIATELY.
Get the ebook here: http://thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
Inside, you'll learn:
-How to trigger attraction instantly.
-How to approach women and create "instant dates."
-How to get physical.
-How to handle tests.
-How to create a powerful sense of connection.
-And much, much more.
And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE, to learn EXACTLY how to
go about approaching women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even where to find the RIGHT
kinds of women for YOU, as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women tend to throw your way,
then I seriously suggest you sign up for my Live Bootcamp or Workshop
program where you will “work it” in the real world. These programs are
three days and three nights of MASSIVE learning and skill growth, where
we won’t stop until YOU have achieved YOUR goals.
http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp/
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
www.TheDatingWizard.com or call 416 630 9966.
