Sometimes a thought is
burning so bright in my head that unless I get it out, I feel like I am
going to explode.
This is one of those times.
Right now, there's a war going on. It's not a war fought with guns,
bombs or knives. But it's just as real as any war, and it's going on
right outside your door this second.
Guys, especially GOOD GUYS, are getting the LIFE sucked out of them,
falling victim to depression and low self-esteem and anger and
helplessness and betrayal.
Good, innocent guys, by the millions, are feeling the emotions of
despair and are living with it their entire lives, going to their grave
after a lifetime of this.
Meanwhile, scum-bag type guys are getting women by the hundreds, women
who adore them and only pay lip service "complaints" about their "bad"
traits.
THIS IS A HEINOUS CRIME.
But ALMOST NO ONE WILL TELL YOU THIS.
This too is part of the war.
It's part of it, because if you were an attractive woman, or even a
semi-attractive woman (the standard for beauty has plummeted as a result
of kiss-ass guys who think any woman who is not butt-ugly is beautiful)
why would you want to STOP the FLOW of what keeps on COMING so easy?
And, unlike women who have about a million and one talk shows telling
them they are God's GIFT to mankind even if they are as hideous looking
and selfish on the inside as can be, good guys believe it when they are
told that it's men who are the bad guys, the stupid guys, the uncool
guys, etc.
This leads to good men trying so hard to be GOOD to women, trying so
hard to prove they are NOT rapists or rednecks or thugs or cheap or
unreliable, etc.
So all these good guys try to be ANGELS.
It leads to men giving over all their self-esteem to women, their trust
to women, their money to women, their balls to women.
And it ALSO leads to a situation that is just TOO JUICY to resist for
women, especially physically attractive women.
What I mean is a situation where women can play guys against each other,
play guys for money, play guys for pity, play guys for validation, play
guys for their trust, and basically you just NAME it and women are
playing guys for that too.
This typically goes on BIG TIME when a girl or woman is in her PRIME and
if she is also decently ATTRACTIVE.
Absolute power corrupts absolutely.
In fact, many women are smart enough to even know that behaving
INNOCENTLY and sweetly and girly and acting all feminine is a great way
to CON a guy into getting him to hand over his balls and his dignity.
It's the truth.
Things are NOT equal.
If you just take a look around, you can see this.
Who pays when a man and woman go out?
Who gets the kids in a divorce?
Who usually has the power of choice when it comes to choosing a "mate"
either short term or long term?
Who does SOCIETY consider the "fairer" gender?
Who does SOCIETY label as the more "cheating" kind?
Who tends to commit SUICIDE more after a break up?
What does that say about how supposedly "evil" men are?
What do women do to EARN these privileges?
Do they do ANYTHING for these privileges?
Where do these privileges COME from?
Why did they START?
It's amazing how the greatest hoax of all time is successfully being
pulled off perfectly in front of billions of supposedly intelligent
people.
It's RIDICULOUS how OBVIOUS things can be if you just have the GUTS to
see them.
Yes, it takes GUTS, because SEEING the REALITY means there's WORK to be
done, a reality than CANNOT be left at its status quo.
Listen, you CANNOT accept the current popular frame of dating and how to
"court" a woman, etc, if you want to have DIGNITY in this world. You
just CAN'T.
Women have SO MUCH POWER socially that for guys to play the game by
women's rules or by the current popular standards would be like having
an ANT trying to compete against a STEAMROLLER.
You will get STEAMROLLED by women, OVER and OVER again, if you play
THEIR game.
Why?
Because ATTRACTION is a feeling we have towards something we perceive as
SUPERIOR, as EXCELLENCE, as the BEST.
Attraction is NOT a "nice" feeling. It's an INSANELY POWERFUL FEELING
that has nothing to do with anything else but RAW INSANE DESIRE.
Look, let me put it this way:
Does a CRACK ADDICT feel that CRACK is "NICE"???????
No, it's INSANELY MORE THAN THAT, RIGHT?????
It's simply "I GOTTTA HAVE IT".
Okay, so you understand me now, right? THAT'S what PURE ATTRACTION feels
like.
And THAT can only stem from feeling that something is SUPERIOR.
And YET, the FRAME that society has IMPRISONED on men, especially GOOD
MEN, is a frame that has INFERIORITY OOOOZING OUT OF EVERY MOLECULE OF
THAT FRAME!
INFERIORITY IS THE "ANTI-ATTRACT"!!
Look, this stuff goes so f-ing deep it's not even funny at all. It goes
waaaay, way, WAYYYYYYYY beyond "hooking up".
It has to do with being DEPRIVED OF YOUR DIGNITY. It's CRAZY what's
going on.
No offense, and I mean this out of the goodness of my heart, but unless
you've been REALLY following my stuff for a while, and REALLY applying
it, you have NO CLUE what's going on.
I think it's HORRIFYING how so many good guys get treated like CRAP by
women, and then these same good guys are SO HAPPY when they meet a woman
who wants to marry them, after she has gotten lines on her face and was
too busy clubbing and drinking her youth away. She knows that as her
time is expiring, it's time to start behaving and get a "good" guy, that
she may very well still try to use and abuse if he lets her.
I'm not saying that there are NO good women, and I WILL go so far as to
say that obviously women who are not attractive will be forced to
develop a personality that is more palatable, but there is still NO
EQUALITY by a long shot.
In other words, if it was equality, then a decent looking guy would be
able to get a decent looking woman who treated him decently. And he
would be able to do this by treating her "equally".
NOT IN YOUR DREAMS, BUDDY!
NOT-IN-YOUR-DREAMS!
It JUST DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY.
What REALLY happens in the above scenario of the decent looking guy and
decent looking girl is that the girl gives the guy A BUNCH OF HOGWASH.
TAKE A LOOK AROUND:
SEE FOR YOURSELVES WHO GETS THE WOMEN CRAZY about them.
Hey, I'm not here to play games with you.
TAKE A LOOK AROUND.
See how those guys behave.
Take into account everything, like how hot she is, how old she is, how
many options she has, and WHICH guy she GOES for.
It's a simple experiment actually.
Listen, the ONLY way to SURVIVE in a society that instructs men to
behave in a way that shows INFERIORITY to women, is to REJECT all that
CRAP.
What does this mean?
It means BEHAVING THE WAY YOU WOULD BEHAVE IF THINGS WERE REVERSED.
i.e. IF YOU HAD THE POWER.
I.E. If you had MORE WOMEN WHO WERE STRIKINGLY BEAUTIFUL HITTING ON YOU
than you could possibly imagine.
You don't even REALIZE what this means, it's so hard to even IMAGINE it
since it's so far from your reality.
But TRY TO THINK ABOUT IT:
What would it mean for your desires, for example, if you had all those
women? Would you want to jump into a serious relationship with ONE of
them before knowing all of them? Would you TOLERATE one woman who you
were not enjoying? Would you get all excited when a woman was interested
in you after it's already happened a million times? Would you get
jealous easily? Would you get ANGRY if some woman was giving you a
problem or would you just laugh and dump her? Would you have time for
women who you didn't find VERY appealing? Would you NOT take advantage
of all the favours that these women were willing to do for you
financially, socially, academically, etc?
So YES, how would you behave if things were REVERSED.
You see, SOME guys think that "If it was so simple, then how come not
ALL guys are doing it?"
Listen, the REASON not ALL guys are doing it is just because something
might sound SIMPLE does not mean it is EASY.
Lifting a super heavy weight SEEMS simple.
It's not as simple as it looks, and it's certainly not EASY.
It takes PRACTICE.
You have to CONDITION yourself for it.
And let me tell you something:
The CONDITIONING you have to do for WEIGHTS IS A COMPLETE AND UTTER JOKE
compared to the conditioning you must do to your EMOTIONS to TRULY MAKE
A MASSIVE difference in your RESULTS with women.
So MOST GUYS will just say F(*& IT.
Because it's NOT SO EASY to train yourself this way.
THAT'S THE TRUTH.
You have to train yourself so that you not only ACT a certain way, but
that you TRULY FEEL a certain way.
What is this "feeling a certain way"?
What it is TRULY FEELING SUPERIOR to the girl you are with.
It's funny, because I get some email from girls telling me they LOVE my
stuff, and some from women telling me they think I am teaching men to be
jerks and that supposedly all women want is a good guy and that I am
TOTALLY WRONG about how to attract women, and that I am RUINING men for
women.
You know what?
Sometimes the girls send me pics.
And you know what else?
MOST OF THE TIME, the girls who like my stuff, they're hot. And the
women who don't, are women who either hate men, or sometimes are women
who have been hurt or who are desperate.
Which makes total sense.
Because if a woman is really not that attractive, and I mean physically,
she probably does NOT get a lot of attention. So SHE WOULD APPRECIATE
some real kissing up. To be honest though, she would still NOT RESPECT
the ass-kisser much after a short while. EVEN IF SHE WAS SUPER DUPER
DUPER SUPER DUPER UGLY.
So even in THAT case, I don't recommend kissing up as society recommends
for guys to do. I WILL say however, that you can definitely be a lot
"nicer" to such a woman.
Back to the standard situation though of just girls who are decently
attractive, and of course for girls who are "high end" attractive. YOU
WILL BE SLAUGHTERED BY BEING the proverbial NICE guy.
Even the sweetest girl will take advantage of you simply because her
BRAIN has been HAMMERED with the message that NICENESS equals desperate
INFERIORITY.
So it all sounds so simple, right?
Just don't be a nice guy.
NO, it's NOT so simple.
Because what happens is that guys get EMOTIONAL reactions to situations
with women who are attractive.
And THOSE EMOTIONAL REACTIONS show SUPER DUPER CLEARLY that the guy is
NOT superior.
You can't fight with GOOD OL' MOTHER NATURE. If you are FEELING
INFERIOR, it will SHOW. Only the best of the best of the best actors can
FAKE it. In fact, the best actors do NOT fake it, they actually FEEL the
emotion they are "acting". It's called METHOD ACTING.
Look, let me give you a perfect example:
JEALOUSY.
You can't get jealous if you feel that YOU are superior.
You can ONLY get jealous if you feel that YOU are INFERIOR.
So, what happens?
Guy meets girl who is hot. If he's a typical ass-kisser, he gets shut
down in a microsecond. (he THINKS he was having a conversation, but she
already shut him down in her own mind before he opened his mouth.)
If he's an amateur, he fakes it and gets somewhere. But then, he SCREWS
IT UP by feeling a state of inferiority and REVEALING it without even
REALIZING.
Like, he gets MAD.
He gets ANGRY.
He get JEALOUS.
He gets NEEDY.
He feels he needs her NOW.
He feels a need to PROVE a point to her, or even to prove a point to
HIMSELF.
He does not take action out of a fear of REJECTION.
These are just a few examples, any of which are about as bad as going up
to a woman and licking her heels and crawling on the floor for her and
calling her a hundred times a day crying that you are worthless and that
she is the goddess who can save you.
What does all this mean?
It means that you have to MASSIVELY CHANGE THE KIND OF STATES YOU ARE IN
AROUND WOMEN.
This is way more than just being "positive". Holy COW man, it's WAY
more.
Like, in my book I say "be dominant".
That means you must BE DOMINANT, dammit!
And you are NOT going to be dominant if you GIVE IN TO THE FEAR OF BEING
SCARED of being dominant!
Look, ever wonder why THUGS get women?
Ever wonder why JERKS get women?
Ever wonder why JAMES BOND is sexy to women?
Ever wonder why the rock bands that your parents tell you are "evil
trash" get all the women?
It's because all these guys DON'T GIVE A %$*&!
They DO whatever they WANT!
They DOMINATE their environment, they DO what they want in their
environment, in any environment, and they don't care about the
consequences.
Look, don't be an idiot here thinking you have to be a THUG and go to
jail to get women.
The POINT is that the BEHAVIOR of all those guys like Bond, rock stars,
etc, all PROJECTS an UNDENIABLE VIBE about themselves:
THAT IF THEY DO THESE THINGS AND DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS, THEN
THEY MUST BE ABLE TO GET AWAY WITH IT.
They must be SO SUPERIOR that people ACCEPT IT.
BOOM!
ATTRACTION IS BORN.
And you know what?
Now you can understand why "players" CONSTANTLY are gaming TONS of
women.
THEY HAVE TO DO THIS.
Otherwise, they run the risk of being dependent on one woman for
validation, for their SENSE OF SELF.
But by having tons of women at all times, any time one chick acts up,
it's no big deal since her relative worth was only a tiny fraction of
the big picture and there are so many other sources of validation
INSTANTLY available. Plus, the competition makes a lot of the women
treat him even BETTER.
And this makes him feel AWESOME and so he never gets jealous, angry,
etc, because he is too busy getting all these women treating him
AWESOMELY or they are replaced by other women instantly. And all this
leads to women being even more attracted since it reeks of SUPERIORITY
even though you can argue till the cows come home that its just creepy.
It will not really become CREEPY on the major scale until MILLIONS AND
MILLIONS of MEN start waking up. If millions of men woke up and started
placing some VALUE on themselves, then suddenly women would RESPECT more
men and be attracted to them and then women would just wish they could
find a guy who wanted them more, and player types would be considered
TOO MUCH. Right now, however, player types are often just what the
doctor ordered for women who feel no challenge or excitement or sense of
superiority or worth from the men they know.
And players know this.
So players make sure to KEEP THEIR STATE PERFECT, so they can take get
the women who will REINFORCE these players' self-concept. It's a never
ending cycle.
You see, as long as you are FEELING all the right states at the right
time, you will NOT DO THE WRONG THINGS WITH WOMEN and you WILL do the
RIGHT things, and you will develop a self-perpetuating loop that gives
you more and more validation and more and more women which gives you
more and more women, etc.
To be able to be in that MASSIVELY powerful state of mind, and NOT have
tons of women, and rely on only ONE attractive woman is RISKY unless
that woman is SUPER DAMN RARE.
Because, in fact, that one woman may very well start to FORGET that you
are the guy that had TONS OF WOMEN and you are the guy that can GET tons
of women, especially as she is being hit on day after day after day and
she is living in a world where guys don't actively get hit on by women.
So the guy starts to lose "social proof" by not being hit on.
So you see, a lot of players are really just insecure guys who have
learned that one way to remain secure is to have tons of women around
them. And hey, it works, though I don't think it's the real solution
long term. Long term, you have to have the skills AND meet a woman who
is really that rare woman whose emotional intelligence makes her feel
even MORE desire for you since she knows you have the choice to be with
whoever you want and that you have chosen her for her good qualities so
she better keep it up to stay with you.
The bottom line, is that you need to get VALIDATED in your OWN HEAD in
order for your game to take off.
If you want to be a player, that's fine. It's one way to skin a cat.
But I think the more POWERFUL method is to simply GAIN THE SKILLS to
attract women, because when you have the skills, you KNOW you can get
women without having to sleep with every woman on the planet. This is no
different than how many women behave at clubs, which is that they come
to get validated and then leave. Thanks for the free drinks, free
compliments, free-ass kissing, good night.
Once validated, you feel pretty damn good, and so your standards go up
with who you will actually "hook up" with. Now you know why so many
women will take your compliments but not sleep with you and in fact why
your compliment might be the thing that's preventing her from sleeping
with you. After all, she already got validated from you, so she doesn't
need to sleep with you, in fact now that she got validated from you, the
whole idea of sleeping with you doesn't seem so desirable after all, in
her mind. Because only inferiors would feel the desire or need to
validate her so easily, right?
And after all, if you were superior, you would not feel she was so
great, right?
When you have women treating you as well as you previously treated
women, when you have women giving you awesome sex, you will not feel the
need to get every woman into bed with you. YOUR standards will go up,
just like women's do. Just as women are not desperate about any of this
stuff.
However, UNLIKE women, in order to have their success and even GREATER
power, (because women can only be passive or they come across as
inferior and desperate, while as a man you can be active and have your
choice of who you approach) YOU will have to learn how to access MORE
states than women need to learn to access.
For example, you will need to learn to RESIST jealousy when in fact most
women never even have to worry about this emotion with most guys since
they have all these guys under their thumb.
You will need to learn to RESIST insecurity and jealousy till they
finally LEAVE YOUR SYSTEM AND ARE REPLACED WITH TOTAL FEELINGS OF
SUPERIORITY.
In order to be able to do this, at FIRST, you will need to fake it
enough (which still takes effort, just like a professional actor IS
focusing when working) so that you get results with women that give you
more feelings of superiority.
Remember, anger, jealousy, all these things are PROOF NOT OF YOUR
SUPERIORITY, BUT OF HER SUPERIORITY AND YOUR INFERIORITY.
Also, for example, you will have to practice being DOMINANT with women
till it would feel RIDICULOUS TO NOT BE DOMINANT.
And you will need to practice so many other states of mind, such as
learning how to be all these "serious" masculine traits while ALSO being
playful at the right time.
Yes, even though I have just bombarded you with some pretty SERIOUS
realities, you have to ALSO know how to TRULY be PLAYFUL.
I typically don’t like to DWELL on some of the harsh realities because
if you FOCUS only on those things, you will RUIN THE FRAME you need to
have for MASSIVE SUCCESS with women. You will PROJECT negativity if you
focus only on the negative stuff.
At the same time, though, if you DON’T KNOW the realities, you will get
DEMOLISHED.
The trick is to KNOW the realities in the first place so that you can
TRULY FOLLOW THE RIGHT PATH that will lead to REAL RESULTS and also lead
to a powerful INNER GAME.
If you want results, you have to know MORE than just positive thinking,
you have to KNOW THE REALITIES of what is going on, AND you have to be
able to access several important states such as dominance, playfulness,
intrigue, and curiosity, to name a few. And you have develop a
familiarity and comfort with how to bridge from one step of the
interaction to the next.
Anyone who tells you that this stuff is not the CORE of success is
bullshitting you.
I have no desire to bullshit you.
I honestly write these articles and do the workshops, bootcamps, etc,
because it would drive me MAD not to. I would explode if I didn't get it
all out.
I only plan to stop the day that the majority of women start treating
good men with the respect they deserve. I honestly wish that day would
happen this second, because I have other passions and interests as well
that I would like to sink my energy into, but none supersede this
mission.
Until then, the best thing you can right NOW for yourself would be to
download and read my book, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with
Women, IMMEDIATELY.
This book is my little baby, a no-holds barred slugfest of truth
defeating fiction.
And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE, to learn EXACTLY how to
go about approaching women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even where to find the RIGHT
kinds of women for YOU, as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women tend to throw your way,
then I seriously suggest you sign up for my Live Bootcamp or Workshop
program where you will “work it” in the real world. These programs are
three days and three nights of MASSIVE learning and skill growth, where
we won’t stop until YOU have achieved YOUR goals.
http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp/
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
www.TheDatingWizard.com or call 416 630 9966.
