This stuff is
really powerful, and so I really urge you all to use it with
responsibility.
When I was a kid, they used to have these things called “Grab-Bags”
that they gave out at birthday parties, sometimes you would get them on
holidays or other celebrations where kids were a big part of it. And
then there was the even more surreal version of these things at the
local convenience store: Not content to just deliver the mysterious
contents in a plain paper bag, the convenience store version had the
contents sealed in a white paper bag with some illustrations on it.
Whatever the cost, it was for a damn cheap price, and they were called
“Loot-Bags”.
Basically, you never knew exactly what you were going to get inside
these things, but you knew it would probably have all kinds of wonderful
zany different kinds of snacks or treats and some super cheap toy or
puzzle that actually seemed somehow way more fun than it really was
because it was something novel and different.
Hence, you didn’t just accept, or take this special package. No way man,
you GRABBED IT!
What made it cool was that you had no idea what you were going to get
inside that damn paper bag with illustrations on it. Ahh, the joys….
So today, I want to treat you to some fun by not letting you know
exactly what you’re going to get. You’re going to get some zany,
wonderful treats, and it’s going to come to you at the same wonderful
price of those treats from childhood. The ADDED bonus is that what you
are about to read is TRULY THE LOOT BAG, it’s LOADED WITH INSANE VALUE!
So gimme a smile, fasten your seat belt, and let’s go open up our bag o’
treats!!! ;)
Treat #1
Women have given you the wonderful privilege and pleasure of CONTROLLING
THE INTERACTION and taking it WHEREVER the heck you want to go.
The only CONDITIONS here, are that you don’t FORFEIT this privilege by
committing the cardinal sins of CONVEYING INFERIORITY, or of BORING
them, or of NOT HAVING any PLAYFUL vibe to your interaction.
Aside from this, it’s UP TO YOU to lead the interaction to almost
WHEREVER you want it to go, and women will LOVE you FOR doing this and
leading the interaction.
In fact, if you DON’T lead it, women will get PISSED and suddenly be
“excusing” themselves to go. They will suddenly have to leave to catch a
train, or to go feed their goldfish, or they might even have to go say
hi to the Wizard of Oz.
Women WANT you to take over the interaction- in a way that is tactful
and still shows CLASS.
But they DEFINITELY want you to lead the show. This might sound
unbelievable, but it’s the truth.
When I first realized this, it was kinda like the first time I went GO-KARTING
as a kid. And as I’m getting strapped in, I’m thinking:
“I CAN DRIVE THIS CAR!!!!!
IT’S A *&^%$! REAAAAL CAR!!!
I can TAKE OFF with this thing and escape outta here and NO ONE could
stop me, haaaa!!”
Well, it’s the same thing with women. I can’t even understand how once a
guy GETS THIS, how he can possibly not LOOOOVE women!
The whole PROBLEM starts because of politically correct silliness which
tells guys that women want all this equality stuff in every dimension of
their lives. Not when it comes to THIS stuff, man!
REGARDLESS OF THE POLITICS, THE FACT IS WOMEN, FOR WHATEVER REASON, DO
NOT FEEL ATTRACTION WHEN PRESENTED WITH THIS EQUALITY STUFF.
In fact, if you start waiting for a WOMAN to lead the interaction, to
take it to the next level, you’ll find yourself in a very FRUSTRATED
state very quickly.
A woman could be pretty INSANE about you, and STILL she won’t be the one
to DIRECTLY escalate the situation.
It’s up to YOU.
You gotta be THE MAN!
FORGET all the bizarre pseudo-psychology! FORGET cute little “covert
hypnosis” tactics! I laugh my ass off every time I hear some guy trying
to tell me about this stuff, for it is simply NOT FIELD TESTED. Or
rather, that stuff is FIELD TESTED, AND IT IS PROVEN TO FAIL!
A woman wants you to LEAD the show. This isn’t about TRICKERY! She WANTS
this!
These guys who are in clubs trying to hypnotize a woman out of her
pants, if they only realized that the REAL HYPNOSIS rests in their
CHARISMA, in their body language and tonality, in their intriguing
conversations, in their playful vibe. It does NOT rest in covert
word-games any more than Shakespeare’s genius rests in a covert message.
In fact, the very ACT of trying to trick women is BAD for your inner
game, because it makes you feel you don’t have the REAL VALUE to attract
on your OWN. Thus, “tricks” tend to appeal to those guys with low self
esteem. I could probably make a fortune doing that, but I REFUSE TO B.S.
with my clients.
That is why I have only released one product so far, and have been
working IN THE FIELD for almost THREE YEARS non-stop in furthering my
OWN knowledge, skill, and understanding before even THINKING about
creating a new product. Any new product will not be a rehash of even my
own material, never mind someone else's. It will truly be something at a
higher level than has ever been discussed before.
It will be something MAJOR, and it's coming soon.
And from that research and experimentation the past three years, I can
tell you this right now:
INNER GAME is far greater than you could possibly imagine. In fact, I am
careful in these articles, as I try to explain some of the most advanced
ideas I am working on while at the same time trying not to overwhelm
anyone with the fear that this stuff is just too impossible, because
it’s not.
Women want you to LEAD the show and to make the show COMPELLING.
Some guys will say they don’t want to work that hard at doing that. They
will say that this is a form of kissing up.
The reason why it is NOT kissing up, is because you are in fact making
YOURSELF more attractive, making your personality richer, wittier,
stronger, funnier, warmer, more magnetic.
This is NOT about buying her gifts or taking abuse. Therefore, the only
reason someone will not follow my approach is simply because they don’t
desire the results too intensely, which is FINE. I make no judgments on
anyone, and in fact I myself for a while could care less about the whole
woman thing. But that changed when I realized that in fact this is all
about YOUR OWN identity, and not really that much about women at all.
Onward:
So, instead of trying to trick a woman into anything, all she REALLY
WANTS is for you to just SMOOTHLY LEAD HER WHERE YOU BOTH WANT TO GO,
FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!
LEADING THE SHOW is in ITSELF attractive.
Take her on several instant dates as soon as you encounter her for the
first time. Kiss her. Whirl her around. Tickle her. Take her for a
coffee and tease her to pay for you. Tease her, get her laughing. Have a
deep conversation about something intriguing. LEAD THE SHOW, and make it
GOOD.
Oh, you’re afraid she might REJECT you?
Listen, the very fact you went for it is ATTRACTIVE.
You are THE MAN.
She is THE WOMAN.
You expect HER to do all this stuff on her own?
Lead the show, man. It’s not the whole “game” by any stretch, of course,
but it’s DEFINITELY an important part of it.
Which leads me to...
Treat #2
When a woman is giving you a “hard time” as you are attempting a
pick-up, it’s your job to SMOOTHLY keep the interaction PROGRESSING.
And the way to do this is NOT to argue with her.
Even if you supposedly WIN the argument, you actually LOSE, because she
will feel BAD.
And like I said a long time ago, it’s about making women feel AWESOME!
This is where so many guys get so screwed over by bad advice. The idea
of SUPERIORITY is that her self-esteem gets BOOSTED by being with such a
cool superior guy, but there is not going to be much self-esteem
happening to a girl that has been made to feel like CRAP because you
just proved to her how WRONG she is, and now she has no way to save
face.
Save those kind of arguments for the philosophy or logic class. But for
that girl that you are nuts about, you want to keep the ATMOSPHERE all
about playfulness, sexuality, fun, and feeling connected and comfortable
with each other.
So if she tries to RUIN the atmosphere, for example by accusing you of
being a “player” when you know in fact you’re not, (and if you are, then
don’t go around telling lies to women, there are player girls too, so
you can find whatever it is you want without lies.) then the idea is to
take that energy and redirect it in a positive way:
So if she says “You’re a player”, you just flip it positively in a
playful way i.e. your body language stays relaxed and you smile in a
naughty way, “So I can see you like players” or you just tease her that
she seems like a cute little cartoon attack shark and you’re just poor
little Nemo, trying to find his way home….
You see how this disarms the whole situation? The innocence and charm
here are what work, without a touch of being anything less than totally
confident.
Treat #3
SUPERIORITY HAPPENS DAMN FAST!
This stuff is really powerful, and so I really urge you all to use it
with RESPONSIBILITY.
When you are doing things RIGHT, it all happens so fast that if you are
not prepared you will not seize the moment.
What do I mean?
Human beings are MASSIVELY subject to social conditioning. If we get
conditioned to think we SHOULD feel inferior, we then FEEL inferior.
We make fun of monkeys, saying “monkey see, monkey do” but as humans we
are far more intense on accepting social pressure than any monkey would
ever do.
Society tells us that we should value x y or z, and we suddenly do. One
year Madonna preaches materialism and it’s all about sex and wealth.
Then she preaches spirituality and everyone and their neighbor is
suddenly into “new wave energy” and they go and tie red bands around
their wrists when they have no clue as to the real depth of spirituality
at all. The next year she’s kissing Britney and Christina and everyone
is arguing about it and then it’s totally forgotten the next week. Then
she promotes totally conservative values for one week.
And then it’s back to the beginning and dance albums because everyone
forgot about it and now it’s fresh. (And by the way, I like a lot of her
music, but I think it’s sad how so many people will idolize someone like
that, and look to them for values when in fact that idol promotes
completely opposite values simply in the name of publicity and the shock
value she creates. She does it because she KNOWS how easily people will
accept brainwashing when it comes from a socially-proofed star and also
that by changing up her image she stays a novelty and thus stays
exciting and unpredictable.)
NO ONE even thinks for one second that maybe they are getting totally
OPPOSITE messages from the very SAME source.
Such is the power of SOCIAL PRESSURE.
And THIS is why GOOD GUYS have been so MASSIVELY ABUSED PSYCHOLOGICALLY,
because they have been fed messages that they should be ASS-KISSERS and
that they should be BORING.
Yes, guys are always told by women that “all the woman wants” is a good
guy who is RELIABLE who will be a good father a good husband who will
not rock the boat, who will always be there, who will not be too
exciting because those men are “emotionally risky” to her, (yet this in
reality is also what attracts her to them) and that women will
APPRECIATE THIS.
And that guys should PROVE to a woman how faithful, good, reliable,
dedicated, etc, that they are before a woman shows them ANYTHING about
how good the WOMAN is.
BULL(*&^!.
BUT yet the good guys BELIEVE it.
And then as we OBSERVE REALITY and see what is really going on, we start
to ever so slowly notice that this is a formula for inviting ABUSE.
Human beings are NOTORIOUS for TAKING POWER FOR GRANTED.
And women are human.
By giving WOMEN so much power over social interactions, women CANNOT
HELP but start to feel that they DESERVE this power and that men in fact
ARE inferior.
Listen, even CHILDREN, innocent little children, if you preach to them
about who is superior and who is inferior, they will have NO ISSUES AT
ALL WITH DESTROYING THOSE WHO ARE THE INFERIORS.
And they will transform QUICKLY.
Like, in a matter of minutes.
That’s INNOCENT CHILDREN.
Now, how about ADULTS who are far more power hungry and far less
“utopian” in their picture of how the world should be?
How about female ADULTS?
Like I meet good guys all the time who after a break up with a girl will
not have sex with another woman till they meet their next girlfriend
that might be YEARS later.
Meanwhile, their SUPPOSED “soul-mate” that broke up with them and who
promised the guy FOREVER, she is already having sex with a new guy the
next week, and she feels guilty about it, so she dumps the guy and then
does it again with ANOTHER guy the next week! And these guys aren’t
usually nice guys either.
I’m not even trying to say that the majority of women are like this, but
the fact is that attractive women have guys available 24/7 and the idea
of “forever” etc etc, can ONLY be realistic if you are relying on your
skills of ATTRACTION, and NOT on her concepts of logic, loyalty, love,
etc.
The thing is, the way to UNDERSTAND what is going on and not get majorly
pissed, is to GAIN the same power. Suddenly then, you don’t feel so
pissed, because you have so many woman at your fingertips that you kind
of agree it’s silly to harp on a relationship that isn’t feeling good,
especially when you have infinite choices out there.
But it feels pretty damn evil when you are NOT in that position of
power.
And that’s why I’m here, to change all that. To GIVE YOU THE POWER.
In fact, it’s MEN these days who need to gain equality, and then maybe
women will EMOTIONALLY feel like thinking twice before dumping a good
guy, because she will CHERISH him since he will be in SCARCE supply.
Scarcity AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION.
But right now, there are a lot of those kind of guys ready to kiss up,
and hence those guys are not valued by most attractive women.
Not until those women end up NEEDING a good guy when they get old and
ugly or when they are in deep need of some guy to support them.
I’m NOT trying to single out women here for having this HUMAN TRAIT. No
more so than singling out MEN who abuse or abused MEN’S power.
But the fact remains that when it comes to the social and sexual power
between men and women, if a woman is not old, and if she is decently
attractive, (she does not even have to be HOT), she wields MORE power
over most men, than vice-versa.
She wields the power of the men who are CLUELESS. And that’s a LOT of
men. If it WEREN’T a lot of men, there wouldn’t be the WHOLE PROBLEM to
begin with!!!!!
Women would never have been spoiled!
And what happens ALSO is that THE GOOD GUYS start to develop what is
known in psychology as:
LEARNED HELPLESSNESS.
This is truly scary:
Because men see no other MEN around who will STAND UP TO THE HOGWASH,
they start to think that there is NO WAY TO OVERCOME the hogwash.
And they even start to think that taking any ACTION will ONLY result in
things getting even WORSE.
They are too damn scared to rock the radical feminists’ boat.
Will the REAL MEN please stand UP?
I say we ROCK THIS BOAT AND ROCK IT LIKE IT AIN’T NEVER BEEN ROCKED!
Otherwise, we will be slowly waiting for the day where all guys do
nothing but pray for the mercy of some woman, a mercy that will NEVER
come.
And just as is happening today, women will CONTINUE to suck up this
power as if it is COMING TO THEM, and they will have no issues with
MILKING it for all it’s worth.
And they will do this without feeling GUILT. They will feel it is their
RIGHT.
This is just the way HUMANS ARE if they are not counterbalanced with
some form of humility. Men or women, same thing in this regard.
This is why the guy who keeps on TRYING HARDER AND HARDER to please the
woman NEVER makes any progress, he only gets DEEPER in the hole (i.e.
REPULSING HER MORE AND MORE AND DESTROYING ANY ATTRACTION HE MAY ONCE
HAVE BEEN EXUDING) because she feels he is obviously THAT MUCH in debt
to her!
She feels that she is THAT superior, she is THAT much more desirable
than he is.
And SIMULTANEOUSLY, the GUY feels that HE HIMSELF has LOWER AND LOWER
worth! He starts to feel more and more inferior, he feels that he truly
DESERVES to be in debt to her, for she is so superior. He BELIEVES she
is superior since she is ACTING as if she is superior and because
society itself keeps sending out the message that women are superior.
Otherwise, why is it okay for a guy to kiss up to women, to work his
butt off for her, to prove his commitment to her, etc, etc, while SHE
does NOTHING to prove her worth to him?
So, SOCIAL FORCES, both on a giant scale, (women in general, and the
fact that men accept this in general) and on an immediate local scale,
(the specific woman the guy is interacting with behaves as if she is
superior and all the guys that the guy knows think this is NORMAL and
they think this is the way it is supposed to be) end up CONVINCING men
that women are superior and that men are inferior. i.e. That in general,
women are desirable and that men are not.
It’s so insane that the fact this is not being BLASTED ON THE AIRWAVES
all over the place is one of life’s great mysteries.
Now, I honestly hope that this is NOT going to make all of you suddenly
go out and become JERK-OFFS to women.
THERE IS A MUCH BETTER WAY!
A WAY THAT MAKES EVERYONE HAPPY!
And no, this isn’t some theoretical crap from some children’s tv show.
The solution is to DELIVER THE MESSAGE OF YOUR SUPERIORITY, AND TO DO
THIS BY APPEALING TO HER EMOTIONS, NOT HER LOGIC. By emotions, I mean
the emotion of ATTRACTION. We feel attraction to that which we perceive
is SUPERIOR.
And you do this without going into the land of abuse. No need for abuse,
and you shouldn’t even WANT to do that, because when YOU are high self
esteem, you don’t need to do that kind of stuff.
And high self-esteem is actually a huge key to YOUR success with any
woman and to your overall healthy psychological balance !
In addition to understanding the THEORY of how superiority is
EFFECTIVELY projected, a HUGE PART OF THIS is the development of your
REAL WORLD INNER GAME.
Your inner state is CRUCIAL to EFFECTIVE execution of pick-up and
attraction in general.
If you are in a screwed up state of mind, SLAP YOURSELF! Put on some
good music. Throw the crappy sobby music in the garbage. Go watch an
inspiring movie.
Crappy inner state is for ROOKIES.
Don’t go pulling no rookie-sh#! on me.
You are a DW protégé! Make me proud!
Treat #4
When doing pickup, realize that not all SITUATIONS are equal. I’ve been
conducting workshops for almost three years, daytime and night-time, and
in all kinds of venues, including the street.
I see a lot of newbies TORTURING themselves by trying to pick up women
in situations that are POSSIBLE, but really are messed up from a
logistics point of view.
Now, the honest truth is that I kind of get off on these difficult
situations and I’m weird like that, but at least I ENJOY it. I love the
idea of doing completely insane things like stopping a girl with
headphones on who is totally in her own reality, and rushing down the
subway corridor and who is clearly in a hurry and not in a party mood at
all and who is surrounded by a thousand pedestrians who keep knocking
into me and her and making the whole situation more challenging. It
makes it so much damn sweeter later when it works and gives a great
story for you and her to talk about with each other later.
But maybe, if you’re a newbie who currently wants to actually have women
in his life RIGHT NOW, maybe you might want to start with situations
where you don’t have to ALSO deal with all those logistics issues. I
think a LOT of guys are hurting their inner game and their confidence by
starting off in environments that are hard for beginners to get concrete
measurable results.
For example, if you’re a beginner, you might want to practice in clubs,
where the girls aren’t going anywhere so fast, or in cafes where the
girls are already sitting down chilling out having their tea, or at the
roller coaster park where the girls are all having fun already. That
way, you will get results even faster, and the improvement this stirs in
your inner game will allow you to better apply all your understandings
of pick-up and attraction that will SNOWBALL your success to greater and
greater heights.
So if you’re a newbie, I would recommend that route instead. Unless you
LIVE for the thrill of adrenaline, or you ENJOY the idea of making
things even MORE challenging, which I could totally understand as well
;)
And on that note of thrills and spills, let me tie up this Grab-Bag with
a very special letter I recently received after sending a customer my
eBook in good faith.
>>>Letter From A Reader<<<
Hey Mike,
Well, I just have to say one thing to you: THANK YOU!
In addition to your kindness for sending me the e-book, I am also
thanking you for writing a book that is somewhat hard to put into words
the appreciation and admiration that I have for you and your work.
You also, interestingly enough, sent this to me when I most needed it
and can and will get the most use and value from it.
I have been through a lot in life: am a former soldier; traveled
extensively; have three degrees; am a licensed teacher; a salesman and
also am a political and social activist. I have probably read almost
everything ever written about evolutionary psychology and sociobiology,
beginning with Edward Wilson's On Human Nature.
I also likely have read every major piece on dating and "relationships,"
both the politically correct feminista stuff (mostly written by "men")
to the more realistic "jerk" oriented material.
Your book is such a brilliant synergy of the findings of EP and SB so
astutely applied to the dating and social scene for MEN, REAL MEN.
Liberating to the male soul and spirit more than you can imagine.
November 1, 2005, will be a day that I will always remember and
recollect, the day (and all night into the early morning that I was up
reading it) that I received one of life's greatest lessons, from one of
its greatest teachers.
Warmest regards,
John T.
>>>My Comments<<<
A humble THANK YOU from me to you, for that letter. Not just because of
your kind words, but also because as someone with a great deal of life
experience and insight, YOU help SHATTER the ILLUSION that this stuff
comes NATURALLY to anyone.
Also, I notice that the guys who make the BEST progress, who become
REALLY DAMN GOOD at these skills, are the guys who are committed to
LEARNING in general. (they are also the guys who don't try to rip off
people, they have integrity) And it’s ironic how the more guys already
KNOW, the more open they are to learning, whereas the guys who don’t
know much think they know it ALL.
Confidence is awesome, but confidence mixed with KNOWLEDGE and SKILL
is where the REAL power is.
And if you would like to join the ranks of those men who are in the
KNOW, and who are changing their lives with women at THIS VERY MOMENT,
then I suggest you immediately download my eBook, The Dating Wizard:
Secrets to Success with Women.
This book will show you exactly how to approach, attract, and lead a
woman in a way that FEELS GOOD for both you AND her.
And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE, to learn EXACTLY how to
go about approaching women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even where to find the RIGHT
kinds of women for YOU, as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women tend to throw your way,
then I seriously suggest you sign up for my Live Bootcamp or Workshop
program where you will “work it” in the real world. These programs are
three days and three nights of MASSIVE learning and skill growth, where
we won’t stop until YOU have achieved YOUR goals.
http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp/
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
www.TheDatingWizard.com or call 416 630 9966.
