I’m sure you
have heard the expression “There was electricity in the air”,
“Electricity between the male and female lead” “I feel a lot of
electricity for her”. Do you know why they say this?
Do you know why they say this?
Well, of course on one hand, we know there is the association of
electricity and “sparks” and the “sparks of attraction” between a man
and a woman.
And maybe you’ve heard of the term “chemistry” applied in a similar way.
Referring to the chemicals in our selves that make us feel attraction.
I like these terminologies, because they are so damn ACCURATE!!!!
Your brain actually uses and produces electricity. The signals used to
carry information throughout the nervous system are electro-chemical.
Electricity, especially in the form of nerve impulses called
“action potentials”, is the primary signaling mechanism within the
central nervous system.
WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR RESULTS WITH WOMEN, THIS CHEMISTRY AND ELECTRICITY
MUST BE HAPPENING ON BOTH A METAPHORICAL AND A LITERAL LEVEL!
And let me tell you something- if you aren’t FEELING the electricity,
the energy, the emotional CHARGES inside of you, then she won’t be
feeling it either!!!!
YOU HAVE TO BE ELECTRICALLY AND CHEMICALLY “CHARGED” INTERNALLY, if you
are to create ELECTRICITY AND CHEMISTRY IN HER.
A lot of guys who have no clue about me wonder if I have a “structure”
to my “system”. The answer is yes, of course, I have a structure, and
it’s SIMPLE: Attract FIRST. Then build CONNECTION second. And these
things have “sub-components” to them.
But the thing is, I don’t get guys overly caught up in “official”
structure, because doing that would SEPARATE GUYS from the MOST
IMPORTANT thing that matters FAR, FAR MORE: And that is FEEEELING in
yourself the all important INTERNAL vibe that makes EVERYTHING ELSE
WORK.
The attraction is about STIMULATING THAT ELECTRICAL CHARGE IN YOUR MIND
WHICH WILL THEN BE EASY TO TRANSFER TO HER AS WELL.
Boom!
Attraction is then born.
Sometimes I think that commercial pick up artists overcomplicate things
with theory and academic nonsense just to sound like they are special
and also to appeal to guys who feel that if they can hide behind some
“structure” they could manage to avoid a woman seeing the REAL them!!!!
Listen, you WANT women to see the real you. But not the real WEAK and
BRAINWASHED version of you. You want them to see the you that you were
BORN to be.
See, I’m not a "pick-up artist". I'm not into deceiving women with lies.
Not only is this creepy, but it always backfires in the long term, which
is something that the short-sighted always end up learning the hard way.
(The problem is that when you are NEEDY for immediate validation, you
don't think long term, you only think about tonight, right now. Which is
exactly why pick up artists aren't known for their relationship
abilities.)
I'm also not into getting notches on my bedpost. Everyone who knows me
knows this for a fact.
I’m simply in love with the human mind, and I ENJOY getting women to
feel AWESOME.
In fact, I like making everyone feel great, I just like good people. I
see the potential in them.
I can talk about this till the end of time, but you won’t understand the
full impact of what I am saying until you EXPERIENCE interaction with
women after you have EXPERIENCED the unleashing of your most powerful
self.
THIS is what I focus on doing with guys, interacting with real women,
rather than spending hours in some crusty room talking about
“structure”. All that “structure” stuff reminds me of how as people we
like to analyze everything to death but not actually EXPERIENCE it,
which is what we really need to understand so many things.
We think we can figure everything out by just putting it on paper. Paper
is PART of it, it IS important to understand the theoretical side, but
you need to ALSO EXPERIENCE things to totally get what I mean by this
ELECTRICAL CHARGE, BY THIS “VIBE”.
And it takes PRACTICE.
One night out won’t do it.
In my bootcamps, I work ONE ON ONE for THREE ENTIRE DAYS straight,
taking guys out into the REAL WORLD of women.
Now, let me ask you something- when women are dressed at their BEST,
when they are in a GREAT mood, when they want to HEIGHTEN and ENRICH
these feelings of electricity, where do they go? And what do they do?
They go to CLUBS with their FRIENDS where awesome music is playing,
where people are having a good time, where people are all dressed to
“electrify”, smelling great, and behaving and dancing and creating even
more electricity through the overall social vibe.
All these things help stimulate “electricity”. We need stimuli to
generate those electrical charges.
The thing to remember is that clubs are not arbitrary places. There is a
REASON women are ATTRACTED to this kind of place. It should give you a
HINT of what type of vibe YOU should be in general as well, if you are
to attract women.
In fact, the truth is, this even goes WAY BEYOND women, because there is
nothing “women specific” about the vibe of clubs—it’s just that most men
are brainwashed to THINK it’s women specific.
The vibe of clubs includes descriptive terms such as EMPOWERING, FUN,
PLAYFUL, GOOD TIMES, COOL STYLE, AND SOCIALIZING, with a touch of the
naughty in an innocent sense.
A long time ago, I hated clubs. I was brainwashed to think it was
something different than it is, brainwashed by certain imbalanced guys
who painted all women as all a bunch of evil, cheating, bad people who
just went out to show off and treat guys badly.
Some of these guys even had “skill” with women, but they were they were
on the wrong side of the
force.
The fact is, they were WRONG.
And, the truth is, that when you DEVELOP, you start to PERCEIVE things
totally differently.
It’s like two jet planes flying at Mach 2, they seem motionless since
they are moving at the same speed. But if you were traveling only 10
miles per hour, you would say “HOLY CRAP, that thing is moving WAYYY TOO
FAST to see, to keep track of, to relate to”.
So when guys don’t have the skills, what they want is to SLOW EVERYTHING
DOWN. They want the situation with women to get EASIER.
But asking women to make it “easier” makes no sense when you think about
it, no sense even from your OWN perspective once you “get it”:
That would be like a guy who is scared of roller coasters telling a
rollercoaster enthusiast that he has found a “great” rollercoaster, and
telling him that it has NO loops, it does NOT go high, it does NOT make
tight turns, that it goes very SLOW, and that there is NOTHING to be
“scared” of!
The rollercoaster enthusiast will think he’s NUTS. He will be like, “WTF???”
He ENJOYS the thrills of this stuff.
In this analogy, women are the rollercoaster enthusiasts. And most guys
are acting like the guy who thinks that the baby coaster is a GOOD
THING.
It’s the same thing with skills with women, the answer is not to slow
things down, but to develop yourself so that in fact YOU feel the roller
coaster is going a bit slow, is not fun enough, and YOU want to escalate
the excitement and thrills!
Get it?
You will NEVER want to go back to the old, “slow” version of yourself
once you have evolved and developed and learned to UNLEASH all the cool,
awesome, intoxicating dimensions of you really are.
Of course, there are ALL kinds of women, (just like there are all kinds
of men) and yeah there are bad apples among men and among women. But
since when is this a reason to lock yourself up and hide away?
In general, though, girls go out with their friends to have a great
time, and of course the single ones go out to meet guys too, but
sometimes even couples go out of course too.
I used to SAY this even three years ago when I first started, but
certain people would still try to promote their hate-filled agendas and
contradict me.
Why am I saying this?
For one, because your BELIEFS will affect your all-important “aura” or
“vibe”. And having negative beliefs that are not even true is a huge
tragedy.
Listen, more than any single other factor, your success with women
depends on the electricity, the chemistry, the AURA or “vibe”, whatever
you want to call it, that YOU feel inside and radiate outwards.
It’s not about whether you meet women in this continent or that
continent or that solar system or this solar system. If you want to
achieve ATTRACTION AND HAVE A GREAT TIME WITH WOMEN, then getting this
stuff sorted sorted out internally is the MOST IMPORTANT THING.
And the ONLY WAY to actually SORT this stuff out internally, the only
way to get good at this stuff, is to PRACTICE interacting with women in
all kinds of social situations.
So you have to get out there.
Look, you don’t need to go to clubs, you can meet women in other places,
BUT you have to ask yourself the REASONS why you avoid clubs if you
avoid them.
You have to be damn HONEST with yourself.
If you are put off by the idea of having a great time with other people,
if you can’t unwind and enjoy the music, if you can’t be in the mood of
a party, if you find yourself feeling out of place, if you think that
dressing in a fun and sexy style is WRONG or “stupid”, if the idea of
chatting up a group of women seems uncomfortable, then you are going to
have major challenges with women in ANY arena, be it a library or a
club.
You think I have no idea how new environments can feel WEIRD or
uncomfortable and “unnatural’? Trust me, I come from a very conservative
background, and didn’t become a “rebel” until about 17, and it took
another few YEARS to even COMPREHEND what is ACTUALLY going on around us
between men and women, beneath the matrix of the official “guy buys
flowers for woman” thing. Clubs felt VERY weird for me, for all the
wrong reasons.
I can assure you that being social and interacting with others and
women, and dressing in a cool way and developing your sense of humor and
your ability to connect with people is the MOST NATURAL THING IN THE
WORLD.
Humans have been around for how many million years?
Okay, so that makes for a lot more time that people have spent
interacting with other humans, for SURVIVAL no less, than they have
spent time as a species watching television, eating pizza, or working
behind a desk. But yet people keep on doing those things, even though TV
might not be “natural”. These days, “natural” has become a word people
use as an excuse, and what they really mean is “easier”. They want an
easy way out.
I’m not in the business of shining sunshine or blowing smoke up people’s
a**es. I can’t afford to, because I have to get real guys real results
every week! I have to prove it in person! So you’re not gonna get “easy
way outs” with me. But you WILL get results.
The crazy thing is that once you develop these aspects of yourself, you
not only can succeed with
women in even the most “difficult” environments, but you CAN’T HELP BUT
SUCCEED, since you actually BECOME what attraction IS. You have NO IDEA
how powerful you can be in this realm, and it will actually carry over
into EVERYTHING you do for the rest of your life.
I can ACCELERATE your development in this area called “dating and
attraction” so that you don’t waste time guessing what you need to do
and what you don’t. I’ll make sure that the things you learn and the
skills you acquire with me are the things you need. Not one second will
be spent on confusing commercial semantics to make you feel that I am
“special and important”. My “marketing campaign” is damn simple- you get
results, I naturally then get good publicity.
If you take my bootcamp, you will see that I don’t CHANGE who you are, I
UNLEASH who you are. There is no finer feeling in the world than at the
end of a bootcamp or several consultations, knowing that my clients are
heading on their way to a new life in just a few short months, if they
continue to apply what they have learned with me.
This is not an exaggeration. If I wanted to exaggerate, I would say that
the results are OVERNIGHT. In some cases, they actually are overnight,
but most people take a few months.
I am able to unleash who you really are through a combination of
determining your strengths and weaknesses, and then WIPING OUT your weak
points and ENHANCING your strengths THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE- by applying
what you learned IN THE FIELD. The field, also known as the real world-
clubs, cafes, the street, anywhere where REAL WOMEN are.
This is THE BEST PLACE to develop your skills. It’s the REAL world.
No b.s. marathon dissertations on how you need to do nothing but watch
certain tv shows and movies all day to get good with women. And no b.s.
about how you need to move to Timbuktu to meet women who will respond
favorably to you. No b.s. using semantics and “secretive” obfuscating
jargon that only makes you CONFUSED and leads NOWHERE.
Three years ago, I was the guy who first explained the real connection
between having “material” and being “direct, real, and superior”.
The reality is that material can help you out, but you must always
SIMULTANEOUSLY strive to develop the skill of being resourceful as well.
“Resourceful” in this sense is referring to your ability to have an
EFFECTIVE TWO-WAY INTERACTION with a woman, especially in the more
challenging situations where you have a woman who is a total stranger of
the blue, who you have just approached.
Part of being “resourceful” means your ability to come up with your own
“material”, including on the fly. The more you are relying ON YOURSELF,
the greater your confidence, and also when you actually get to know the
woman this will help you as well. This is because you will be accustomed
to not needing “tricks” to attract her or interact with her.
Feeling more real will do wonders for your self-esteem and your
interactions with women for the rest of your life.
The more your stuff really comes from you, especially regarding the
reality of the emotions, (meaning that you feel those emotions you are
referring to in whatever the heck you are talking about) the more
congruent you will be with it, the more real you will feel, and the more
real she will feel you are.
Makes sense, eh? The more real you are, the more real she feels you are,
what a concept.
After I spoke about this stuff, these concepts were then debated
relentlessly on forums throughout the world, and even today you still
hear these ridiculous arguments, as if the point were still a matter of
debate.
Trust me, there is NO debate amongst the guys who REALLY KNOW their
s**t. Any debate is a sign of ignorance or commercial marketing scams.
You must develop the INNER CHARISMA to make any “material” really shine
and work. Material is just a way that helps you when you happen to
STALL, which happens less and less as you practice. By having something
cool to SAY, it can help a guy relax if his primary issue is “what to
say”. But “what to say”, believe it or not, is NOT the primary issue for
most guys, even though most guys THINK it is.
The thing is that initially, material can help a guy who is starting out
and is nervous, but he should always still be striving to develop his
actual INTERACTION SKILLS as much as possible. So a guy who focuses on
only the words is actually ignoring all the other parts of the
interaction.
I have seen countless guys without the soul and the charisma, recite
tons of “cool material” to women, and the women are curious at first,
because the material does sound interesting, but then they sense
something is VERY WRONG. The guy is OVER-RELYING on the material instead
of on the INTERACTION. So what happens is that the material is cool, but
the guy is NOT.
I believe that the ability to create attraction in women flows from a
combination of UNDERSTANDING the nature of attraction, AND from
DEVELOPING the real world SKILLS required for INTERACTING with women.
These are two different things, and you need both.
Also, without practicing through interacting with women, not only will
you not develop the SKILLS, but you will also never even fully
understand the theory part either.
Real world interaction is KEY.
If you would like to learn about the nature of attraction, and the
fundamentals of how to APPLY this in your interactions with women, then
I seriously suggest you IMMEDIATELY download my eBook-
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, at: http://thedatingwizard.com/the_dating_wizard.htm
Inside, you'll learn:
-How to trigger attraction instantly.
-How to approach women and create "instant dates."
-How to get physical.
-How to handle tests.
-How to create a powerful sense of connection.
-And much, much more.
And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE, to learn EXACTLY how to
go about approaching women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even where to find the RIGHT
kinds of women for YOU, as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women tend to throw your way,
then I seriously suggest you sign up for my Live Bootcamp or Workshop
program where you will “work it” in the real world. These programs are
three days and three nights of MASSIVE learning and skill growth, where
we won’t stop until YOU have achieved YOUR goals.
http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp/
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
www.TheDatingWizard.com or call 416 630 9966.
