The RESULTS are ALL
that matter to me in this game.
I want you to EXPERIENCE results. That way, you will definitely BELIEVE
the results. So sit tight and get ready for a TRULY MIND BLOWING column
informing you now of what REALLY WORKS.
The FIRST thing I want to point out about this whole "game" is that it
TRULY is about changing YOURSELF and NOT about changing women ONE BIT.
The idea is that you are giving women what they ACTUALLY CRAVE, what
they actually WANT.
So many guys think it's about TRICKING women into things. Or they think
it's about being a JERK.
Nooo.
It's a known fact:
You can't really make someone WANT to do something they deeply DON'T
want to do. All hypnotists know this.
When it comes to women, it's CRUCIAL to understand that the KEY is to
UNDERSTAND WHAT A WOMAN TRULY IS ATTRACTED TO. Not what they say they
are attracted to, not what women's magazines say, not what you hear on
TV or anywhere else. This is what screwed up my original struggles,
because I was applying valid concepts of psychology but they were based
on ERRONEOUS understandings of women. TILL THIS VERY DAY, most of the
"official" books on understanding women and female sexuality are
PATHETICALLY PREHISTORIC, MOSTLY USELESS, AND USUALLY BASED ON
TREMENDOUS IGNORANCE AND FEAR AND EGO!
When I finally gained a FAR GREATER UNDERSTANDING of what the REALITIES
of women and the realities of the effects of our CULTURE are on women's
sexuality, I was finally able to SKYROCKET my results to the level where
things seemed INSANE to me. Things seemed surreal, gorgeous girls acting
in ways that I thought were BIZARRE. I thought for sure that some guy
friends of mine were playing tricks on me, as if they somehow got these
girls to act so attracted to me as a joke. Each time a girl would be
working to gain my attention or each time a girl got physical with me, I
thought maybe it was all some act.
It became extremely rare that girls would even MENTION boyfriends,
except to say that they just broke up with them.
And when women DID act weird, I TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD WHAT WAS really going
on, and I knew how to address it. I knew exactly why they needed to act
"weird" and what they were communicating, and in fact it was not "weird"
at all, it was the ONLY way ANY woman could communicate given the INSANE
CULTURE that women live in.
And this is what happens to EVERY GUY that actually UNDERSTANDS THESE
IDEAS AND ALSO PRACTICES HIS SKILLS.
Suddenly, awesome women rarely have boyfriends. Whereas in the
past, the same guys without the skills got nothing but stories of
boyfriends or realities of boyfriends all the time.
All of a sudden, you start to realize how INSANE the idea is of TRYING
HARD to make a woman WANT you. You start to realize how not only is that
not fun for YOU, but how it ruins EVERYTHING for her.
So let me repeat: This is NOT about changing women. You are instead
turning yourself into something IRRESISTIBLE to women.
You are actually giving women what they WANT. Which is kind of a
contradiction, because often what they want of course is excitement,
which comes from having to WORK HARD to get what they want.
You hear a lot about how it's important to not act needy: Look the truth
is, it's VITAL TO NOT BE NEEDY. Acting the part is ONLY THE BEGINNING.
If you don't graduate to TRULY NOT BEING NEEDY, it's a SYMPTOM of you
NOT PUTTING IN THE WORK practicing the SKILLS.
Honestly, that's all it is. NEEDINESS, to any guy who KNOWS my material,
is a symptom of him NOT APPLYING my material on a regular basis. It's
like KNOWING how to work out, but NOT working out. That weight will be
heavy and impossible to lift, even if you KNOW the proper technique.
Neediness is so horrendously UGLY, that you have no idea how ugly it is
till you TRULY go beyond it. And what's amazing is, once you get beyond
neediness, not only will you make the women around you A BILLION TIMES
MORE EXCITED, but you YOURSELF will feel A BILLION TIMES BETTER.
Neediness destroys all the invisible "sexy-waves" that can flow from you
to her. It makes you BEHAVE in a way that BLOWS OUT THE FIRE OF HER
SEXUAL DESIRE, (and it doesn't do much good for your own state either),
it OBLITERATES your sense of playfulness, it makes you behave in a way
that is NOT FUN, it makes you act in ways that BETRAY WHO YOU REALLY
ARE. It SUFFOCATES all the unique fun cool things about you. It makes
you focused on what you can GET from a woman, it turns you into a TAKER
when you want to be a GIVER of awesome emotions.
It creeps a woman out, and it makes YOU unhappy as well, because you are
in fact feeling that you lack something.
All in all, it makes you seem INFERIOR. And as I have said again and
again, SUPERIORITY is the essence of attraction.
Also, so many guys think that NON-NEEDINESS means to be this ultra-macho
guy who goes around saying how he doesn't need women, and the tone of
his voice sounds like he HATES women. Wrong wrong wrong. All this stuff
is actually STILL A FORM OF NEEDINESS, or he wouldn't be so angry and
bitter.
Non-neediness is ENJOYING a woman's company, it's KNOWING that she wants
you, it's ENJOYING the idea of making her sexually happy and feeling
good, but it's also the idea of you NOT feeling DESPERATE for it.
And of course, HAVING THE SKILLS is what makes you enjoy women, but also
makes you not desperate since you know you can get more.
If YOU are focused on NEEDING something, then your vibe gives off all
the signals of you TAKING. You have to be GIVING her something, although
your mind-set should not be FOCUSED on this or you will become obsessed
with HER reality instead of feeling the confidence and positive vibe of
being in your OWN reality.
If you TRULY don't feel needy, you in fact ARE GIVING her something, you
are giving her the FEELING of being with a sexier guy. All any human
wants is to FEEL these powerful emotions, the same way YOU want to feel
you are with a woman who is absolutely sexy.
When you are truly not-needy, the idea of a relationship is
something you CONSIDER, not something you are OBSESSING for.
The PROBLEM is that as guys we were brainwashed into ACCEPTING CERTAIN
IDEALS as BEING THE BEST, and what's really crazy is that THOSE IDEALS
were not only UNHEALTHY, they were actually IMPOSSIBLE BASED ON THE
REALITY THAT THE CULTURE WAS PROMOTING AS IDEAL!
Let me explain:
Guys were convinced that sex was something that women had to be
"convinced" to give, and also guys where convinced that most women were
morally superior to men, and that the only way to get a woman was to
reach her level of morality by showing what a good guy he was. Also,
guys were convinced that since women were not sexual beings, that
therefore he didn't have to appeal to her sexual side, he only had to be
a "nice guy". Attraction, from his part, was supposedly a NON-ISSUE.
HOLY SMOKES, WHAT HOGWASH! And yet, to various degrees, that overall LIE
has been sold to most guys, some guys bought the whole lie, some guys
bought into part of it.
Now, especially in our society where women are more liberated and in
touch with their sexuality, those illusions create a DISASTER zone for
men. As soon as the guy thinks he's doing a woman a favour, he begins to
feel needy, and so his behaviour REEKS of neediness, his personality
gets suffocated, he behaves in ways that reek of inferiority. Then, he
acts in ways that seem to show he has no clue as to women's sexual
nature, if he even alludes to it at all.
Then, as he gets rejected, he USUALLY CONTINUES AFTER THE SAME WOMAN,
because he bought the other lie that women are somehow morally SUPERIOR
to men, and so he figures she MUST want his good behaviours, it must
just be that he isn't trying hard enough. So he tries harder, and he
gets more needy, all the while he is thinking she will APPRECIATE this,
SINCE women are supposed to love this good morality stuff.
He avoids sexually attractive behaviour, he avoids sexuality altogether.
She gets more and more REPULSED, he keeps getting more and more
attracted, as her being hard to get becomes his "proof" that she must be
VALUABLE indeed!
Meanwhile, his self-esteem gets a CRUSH, SMASH, and LIQUEFY in the
blender. He's turned into wuss-soup. And remains more clueless and needy
than ever.
And all over ONE woman who he has invested all his hopes on, as the
ideals of romance have instructed him to do. And he has totally bought
into the BELIEF that this is the way it IS. That there is no other
woman, etc.
Hmmm, no WONDER we have a problem on our hands! The whole PARADIGM OF
REALITY THAT MOST GUYS HAVE IS SIMPLY A TOTAL LIE! A COMPLETE
IMPOSSIBILITY!
And to think about how many guys are DEPRESSED AND BEATING
THEMSELVES UP OVER SOMETHING THAT IS NOT EVEN TRUE!
It's almost as if the typical guy has been SET UP TO FAIL by a host of
factors that can not be blamed on anyone. I honestly don't believe that
what is happening is INTENTIONAL, it is rather the effect of historical
ignorance about women, which has been made a trillion times worse with
the effect of changed social trends
What ADDS fuel to the fire is that men have also been brainwashed to
believe that ROMANCE is the greatest lifestyle, and that it "just
happens". Now, don't get me wrong, if a guy who is TOTALLY not desperate
and who knows how to meet other women, and he happens to meet a great
woman, who he enjoys a lot, and who treats him great, and he wants to
treat her well too, hey, that's GREAT.
This could be a great thing. You meet a great woman who has her act
together, there is mutual chemistry, you grow together, awesome.
However, the idea that we NEED this, or that this is superior, is TOTAL
INVENTION. And DEFINITELY THE IDEA that this just "happens" without
having the skills or without having the right developed personality and
understanding of attraction and relationships, is absolute HOGWASH. Such
a concept is total artificial construction, not real at all.
And what's REALLY CRAZY about this is that the standard romantic notion
serves women more than men, because it's all about men PROVING
themselves to women, and not the reverse at all.
It's INSANE, and barely even made sense in a world where MEN had tons
more power. But now, it's SHEER LUNACY to retain an unmodified concept
of romance.
I believe in MUTUAL ATTRACTION and RESPECT. And concepts such as
LOYALTY. But belief in an artificial construction that only dates back a
few hundred years and was pretty insane even in its own time? NO WAY.
Also, romantic notions invariably create WEAK STATES OF MIND for men. It
breeds PUSSIES.
It breeds neediness, as in insane notions of "romantic destiny" which is
really triggered simply by chemicals and the illusion that men are
living in a world of scarcity when it comes to women.
However, for women, romance is great, because she sits around benefiting
from a bunch of fools who are willing to kiss her butt and even FIGHT it
out over her! If you're gonna fight, fight for something that will HELP
you or society, not for some random female of which there are thousands
of, and of whom you have no idea about her personality other than that
she would look like nice in panties! It's something else to fight for
your wife or family, but for some woman who has done NOTHING to earn
your interest? All that says is that you are needy.
This is why I say that the skills of attraction are about CHANGING
YOURSELF, and CLEANSING the PARTS OF your identity that have been
infused with BELIEFS based on HOGWASH.
You have to change your sources of security and validation and be far
more INTERNALLY based rather than externally validated. YOUR CORE
IDENTITY MUST BE REBUILT INTO THE MAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BE. We have to
get back to the YOU that you were BEFORE you were affected by all the
insanity, and then we have to build from the ground up.
This is going to take practice. There will be times when you are feeling
needy. There will be times when you want to pursue "that one special
girl" who in reality is NOT special but you have gotten so deep into the
illusion you don't realize it. You will have to tear yourself AWAY from
your old behaviours.
You will have to FORCE yourself to go out and meet women and PUSH beyond
your comfort zone and get used to the idea that actually you are getting
STRONGER from the interactions.
Of course, DOING THIS IN A WAY THAT MINIMIZES REJECTION and maximizes
results will be FAR FASTER to learn than having to get your ego KICKED
AROUND EVEN MORE by extra rejections (which really still mean nothing)
and still trying to learn all this on your own. That's the whole idea
behind my bootcamps, one on one coaching services, and my book.
There were times in my own development (and I'm not finished learning
yet, not by a long shot, I feel like I've only started to see a glimpse
into the insanity that is REALLY POSSIBLE to achieve with this skill)
where I felt HORRIBLE, I can remember feeling so horrible that I even
resorted to calling girls who I KNEW had mistreated me, simply because I
felt THAT IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE for a girl to be so barbaric and that I had
thought I had made a mistake, only to be kicked in the head again on
that very phone call, and I can remember that horrifying feeling of
being totally alone and thinking that actually I could NEVER find a girl
that was better. That was how insane the brainwashing I had been
immersed in was, it had actually gotten to the point that I believed my
abuser was in fact THE BEST A GUY COULD GET!
And to look back at it now, I can only THANK GOD that I never ended up
married to these girls, because not only were these girls sadistic
creeps, but compared to the insanely awesome women in my life now, I
can't even believe I was EVER so DAMAGED back then, so BRAINWASHED, so
UNKNOWING of my own potential!
It's INSANE. But the ONE thing I always did RIGHT was that deep down, I
believed that what was going on was WRONG. I felt I had no choice, but I
at least knew it was wrong. And I KNEW where I WANTED things to be. I
knew with a BURNING DESIRE where I wanted things to be.
And eventually when I could take it no more, when I became
CONVINCED that things were just TOO WRONG, I exploded.
I felt MORALLY SUPERIOR to most women, and suddenly I started tossing
women out on first dates, the first thing I would find that I didn't
like about them, i.e. smoking.
And that's when suddenly the window started to open into a new universe.
Women knew I didn't care for their validation, since I felt they were
inferior, since morals (not sexual morals, but morals about cruelty to
innocents) were ultimately my highest source of validation.
Women who were super attractive suddenly started to fight to KEEP me,
because they SENSED that I did NOT want or need their validation. They
KNEW I didn't think much of them. They knew I wasn't bitter, I was just
disappointed that they were so screwed up and inferior. Keep in mind I
don't share all these beliefs today, but I did have them then, and women
craved the validation of a guy that really seriously no bull acting,
SERIOUSLY DID NOT WANT THEM. You can't act this. You have to BE this.
My point here is not to retell my life story, it's to tell you that you
NEED TO HAVE A SOURCE OF FUEL to keep you on the right path during the
"dark times" when you are scarce on self-esteem and hope. For me, it was
my belief in my own values and morality as being ULTIMATE validation
beyond any woman. As long as I stuck to my values, I felt decent enough
about myself to AVOID giving in to the temptation to accept any
behaviour from any woman that was beneath my dignity.
You must have a FIRE of belief in your own self that fuels you to stay
on the right path, the same way a guy at the gym has to be committed to
get there even when he doesn't feel like it.
You have to live the lifestyle of practicing and going out, just like at
the gym you also have to eat and rest right.
When you do this, you build up your internal self so that you are
LIBERATED from the matrix.
But this in itself is not enough to become awesome with women. Being
free from the matrix simply means you are no longer a slave for women's
validation.
The next step is to actually practice all the various aspects to being
MASSIVELY ATTRACTIVE, from your social skills, to your confident sense
of humour, to your ability to create any emotion.
This only happens with PRACTICE OF THOSE SPECIFIC SKILLS, IN THE REAL
WORLD.
And that's the point of my materials and Bootcamps. Another crucial
component of your success rests in the development of your
INDIVIDUALITY.
I have always, including in my book, been the guy who never chalked up
success to magic techniques, but the overall aura of being THE MAN in
all aspects of your life.
This includes PURSUING YOUR OWN IDENTITY.
Most folks are BORING because they just try to fit into the matrix
without adding anything to it.
One thing about myself was that I was always interested in creative
endeavors dealing with all kinds of things ranging from writing to movie
making etc. In fact, many girls threatened to end relationships with me
because of the lack of financial security that came along with these
fields. Yet at the same time, it was THAT VERY IDENTITY OF MINE that
attracted them to me in the first place.
Due to my own plain stubbornness and my own belief creativity was
crucial for happiness, I never gave up these dimensions of my
personality.
Listen, let me tell you something:
The hotter a girl is, the more important this becomes and the less
important your looks become.
First of all, looks is not a big issue even with the VAST MAJORITY of
girls who DO say looks is a big issue, because if you know how to create
attraction on all the other levels besides the visual, you will
OVERWHELM her brain with attractive stimuli that will make her attracted
to you even if you looked liked hell.
But even regarding the bull about girls who say they want a "hot" guy,
do you know who those girls are usually?
They are NOT the super hot ones.
They are instead the girls who are more like 7's.
Why?
Because 7's are the ones who have issues with THEIR OWN looks and
therefore project it onto the guy and hope to gain self-esteem by
latching onto the fact that the guy has looks, and since to THESE girls,
looks is an issue regarding THEMSELVES, and because they don't get AS
validated on it by "good looking guys", THEY value the looks MORE than
the women who are 10's who could have model guys raining down night and
day, and thus these women find little of interest in these kinds of
guys. What 10s DO want, however, is STIMULATION in OTHER WAYS. They want
something SUPERIOR to looks, because looks means NOTHING to them.
(By the way, this should be a cue for guys who get over-obsessed with a
woman looks, because it says that the guy needs to get over his own
insecurities, although maybe by actually developing the skills of
attraction, he will KNOW he can get all these girls, and he might start
seeing the bigger picture.)
This is why you see so many artistic guys with the women who are most
stunning. Guys who might not look like male models, but are UNIQUE and
thus these women have not gotten emotionally desensitized to them. Guys
with a unique sense of humor, unique sense of art, unique sense of
music. Unique personality. Now do you understand why you see so many
WACKY guys with women who are so stunning that they make your jaw drop?
So my point here is:
DEVELOP YOUR INDIVIDUAL INTERESTS! Get OUT of the matrix of trying to
clone everyone else.
I believe EVERYONE has unique things they can ADD to society in an
AWESOME WAY. (By the way, this also tends to create ANOTHER separate
factor of attraction, because if you are talented, people will find out,
and you will thus gain social status, which is attractive as well.
However, the passion has to be there or you will never become great, so
go for what you're passionate about first and let status come later.)
And again, just like with the idea of not being needy, this will make
YOU feel awesome in addition to giving a WOMAN incredible emotions as
well. You are DEVELOPING YOURSELF in all your dimensions and thus you
simply become MORE ATTRACTIVE, you have more to GIVE.
It FEELS GOOD for you and it feels good for HER. It's a WIN-WIN
situation.
I've just shared some MASSIVELY POWERFUL ideas with you. This stuff is
the TRUTH.
If you would like to take these ideas and TRULY PROPEL YOURSELF INTO THE
NEXT DIMENSION OF SUCCESS, then I suggest you take advantage of my
material and services.
The first thing to do is download my eBook, "The Dating Wizard: Secrets
to Success with Women". This book is the DNA for understanding the
concepts and methods in my advanced programs and services. It's crucial
to read as your starting point.
And if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE, to learn EXACTLY how to
go about approaching women to take things from that very first moment
all the way to the bedroom and beyond, and even where to find the RIGHT
kinds of women for YOU, as well as how to handle and even eradicate the
kind of ridiculous “tests” that even GOOD women tend to throw your way,
then I seriously suggest you sign up for my Live Bootcamp or Workshop
program where you will “work it” in the real world. These programs are
three days and three nights of MASSIVE learning and skill growth, where
we won’t stop until YOU have achieved YOUR goals.
http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp/
Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
www.TheDatingWizard.com or call 416 630 9966.
