There's only one of two states you can be in with a woman: dating a woman or not
dating. And there's only two experiences you can have while in those two states:
security and insecurity.
An insecure guy who's dating a woman will be very likely to fall under a 'spell'
with her. She'll seem to be the light in his life. He'll find himself doing very
un-manly things, like calling her all the time, leaving her notes, thinking
about her non-stop. It's a crappy situation, because you feel helpless and
powerless to your urges.
RESULT: She'll usually become more and more distant, and the relationship
dissolves when she either finds someone else, or suggests you both "start seeing
other people." (And this happens because you couldn't present enough of a
challenge to her. You gave up your goods too early for her, and as a result, the
woman has a low emotional investment.)
An insecure guy who's not dating is likely to fall prey to the same behaviors
with every woman he meets, and the dating never seems to get off the ground. You
might get a phone number or even a first "date" (where she is really just along
for the ride and is just waiting to say, "Let's just be friends.") But things
rarely take off. They seem interested, but they're not.
RESULT: You get more and more frustrated with women, feeling like you can't
figure them out. You start spiraling downward. It gets harder to find women, and
the ones you do meet and date all seem to reinforce this belief system you
develop about how difficult it is to meet and attract women.
A secure guy who's dating a woman is either secure because he knows he has a
great attitude and the techniques and style to get a woman if this one doesn't
work out (rare), or he's just secure because he thinks the relationship he's in
gives him some stability and security (an illusion.) These last kind of guys are
the ones that are in for the biggest shock when their relationship dissolves and
he's thrown back into the market again. He realizes that 1) his game was never
that solid, and he probably lucked into the previous relationship, and 2) he's
got a hell of a time ahead of him to get his act together to attract women
again.
RESULT: He loses that security almost immediately when he realizes that the
behavior that he settled into with a woman in a long-term dating relationship is
NOT what will get him a new girlfriend. The dynamic is all wrong. In fact, if
he'd kept up the passion and behavior that got him into his relationship, he'd
be able to keep it going with her for as long as he wanted.
A secure guy who's not dating only one woman knows that he has the right
attitude and ability to handle the singles "scene." He develops his skills and
attitude to face it head on. And he knows that it takes a completely different
mindset than the guys who are relaxing into a wimpy groove with the woman
they're with. The secure single guy is dating many women because he knows that
he has the game necessary to ignore the little rejections and keep finding more
women, more opportunity. He knows that he needs more information to keep his
growth going so that he becomes a master dater, not a masturbator. He seizes any
opportunity to learn more about this dating game.
RESULT: He stays on the Upward Spiral, knowing that his attitude will make his
dating life, and his attitude is 100% in HIS control. He rebounds quicker. He
gets more dates, more experience, and more success.
Which one of these situations do you want to be in?
You can't afford to be too timid or nice to women. Ever notice how most of the
guys who seem like dicks are always able to score well with women? You have to
lose the insecure, nice guy edge and take on an attitude of total ownership of
your game.
Which one of those states do you want to be in?
If you're in any one of these states, you need to keep moving up the spiral. Get
out there and use the Tease to Please to get her number. Then get some
experience with the dynamics at work. Instead of getting frustrated, get
EDUCATED. You're ready for The Dating Black Book, and finally understanding how
men and women interact in dating. It's all in there. And you can get it here: www.datingdynamics.com/ebookstore.htm
You'll get answers to questions like:
... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested? ... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and
how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another
girlfriend? ... How do you meet MORE hot women? ... How do you get them
attracted to you right from the start? ... How do you stop paying for
dates that go NOWHERE?
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games? www.datingdynamics.com
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
