I going to use this article to talk to you about a topic that I've recently had
the joy of researching first-hand.
This goes into the topic of posture (which many of you are familiar with in the
e-book) and I hope this demonstrates what I mean by turning the tables on a
woman and showing her you are not a wimp.
The usual pattern of male interaction (at least for 90% of the "nice guys" out
there) is that they will often start to fear losing a woman far too quickly.
Recently, I had to cut loose one of my low-grade prospects because of her lack
of effort. It wasn't easy at first, but I remembered that my attitude is FIRST
and foremost, and keeping her around, selling off bits of my self-esteem to keep
seeing her would have been more damaging than beneficial.
Here's the message that I gave her:
"Hey, girl... I tried calling you so I could talk to you in person, but no luck.
I've been thinking, and it doesn't seem like a good time for us to be seeing
each other. I really need a little more TLC right now and enthusiasm if I'm
going to keep seeing someone. I think it's better if we can just be friends. No
criticism of you, I just have high standards when it comes to the level of
attention I require. Good luck!"
Yes, that's what I told her, because I could smell her flakiness starting to
come on, and it got to the point where I couldn't reach her in person.
You know that smell, don't you? When a woman starts to hold back on contacting
you, and you can tell that she's either trying to play the old "hard to get"
game (probably after reading The Rules but not knowing how to use them
appropriately) or she's starting to lose interest.
Most guys totally screw it up right here. They will proceed to push down harder
on the gas, not realizing that she's already pulled up on the emergency brake.
They start to panic, and they call her ten times a day to find out what is
wrong, why won't she call?
Cut her off and take the upper hand back.
The bottom line is that I needed that slice of time back for ME, not wasting it
on a woman who wasn't an active and producing part of my investment portfolio.
The other stocks I've chosen deserve my attention, and they'll get further
investments if they keep producing. But keeping her around is detrimental
overall.
I did my part by demonstrating good faith in making the first installment
investment, which every guy should do. That initial investment is your effort to
get to that first date or meeting with her (introducing yourself, getting the
phone number, calling her, setting the date). Everything after this point MUST
have a return on your investment.
What kind of "return" are you looking for?
If she fails to kiss you on your first date (after a COMPETENT attempt by you)
then she's dropped.
If she does not keep returning energy, affection, or any of the needs you have
from her, GET RID OF HER.
If she's more of a liability or a drain to be around than uplifting and fun -
she's better off playing for another team!
Drop her.
How many times have YOU told a woman you would "rather just be friends"?
When I told a friend of mine that I had used that line on her, he thought it was
the most original thing he'd heard and couldn't stop chuckling at the irony.
(I'll bet HE has never used that on a woman himself.)
Why haven't you done that to HER for a change? Why haven't you dropped a bomb in
her lap by telling her you'd rather just be friends?
Because you were always more scared of losing out on potential pussy than you
were at keeping your self-esteem high. Until you value your own sense of
confidence and self-esteem more than a piece of ass, SHE will always CONTROL
YOU.
(Whoah... this guy is to the point...)
Does that thought sound appealing to you? Giving up your manhood to a woman just
to satisfy your sexual urge?
Here's an alternative: Cultivate the attitude and inner-strength of a man who
does not NEED women at all. He understands that 50% of the population (actually
slightly more) are women, and that once he understands the essentials - the
FUNDAMENTALS - of female attraction, he need never trade his balls for anything
again. Women are always out there waiting for him (yes, WAITING for you, guys -
women almost never initiate, so they're WAITING for YOU.)
WE have the power, my friends. Not them. And only you can do something with that
power by taking the upper hand from time to time.
And there are many ways to display this power of personality.
Ultimately, you're going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her
head to get that upper hand.
Continue
learning about the power you can have over women. You're ready for The Dating Black Book, and finally understanding how
men and women interact in dating. It's all in there. And you can get it here: www.datingdynamics.com/ebookstore.htm
You'll get answers to questions like:
... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested? ... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and
how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another
girlfriend? ... How do you meet MORE hot women? ... How do you get them
attracted to you right from the start? ... How do you stop paying for
dates that go NOWHERE?
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games? www.datingdynamics.com
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
