Don Diebel is President and owner of Gemini Publishing Co., which specializes in books, cassettes, and videos on how to succeed with
women since 1978.
Probably the
biggest mistake that men make in understanding single women is underestimating
just how important sex is to single women. It is easy to see, however, how men
would fail to recognize sex as being a major motivation to single women.
It has always been socially acceptable for men to desire sex, and even to be
open to others about their desires. It has been frowned upon for years, however,
for single women to discuss or admit to sexual desires. A single woman who
lusted for sex was considered a whore or a slut. Single women were even afraid
to admit to themselves that they had desires because of feelings of guilt that
society heaped upon them.
Thus the single female sexual desire is not something that has been talked about
openly, and for this reason men have been lulled into thinking that since it is
not talked about much, it must not be a very strong motive in single women.
The fact of the matter is that female sexual desire does exist. And, it exists
in single women every bit as strongly as it exists in men. We will go so far as
to say that the real, unspoken motive being the women's movement was sexual
freedom. Not freedom to have sex necessarily, but that it is okay for women to
admit that they enjoy it, and want it, and have it with more than one man if
they want. The women's movement was saying, "Hey, we enjoy sex just as much as
men do, and that shouldn't be a sin. We are tired of the double standard."
And that is what has happened. Single women now realize that it's okay to enjoy
sex and they are out looking for it. Sex is something that single women can
enjoy too - not just a dutiful obligation to a male dominated society.
Single women are far more discriminating than men are concerning sex. They
desire sex as much as men do, but whereas men will often have sex with anyone,
single women are looking for someone special. They are passing up sex with just
anyone to wait for someone to come along who they deem to be that special guy.
Single women today not only want sex, they want good sex. And as far as single
women are concerned, whether or not the sex they have is good is the
responsibility of the man. We, as men, are the first ones to point out that this
fact is unfair, but also the first to point out that it is a reality that we all
have to live with.
The next time you are trying to figure out a single woman's actions, just
suppose that she is as motivated and swayed in her behavior by sexual desire as
you are. Time and again, men ask us, "Why did she go for him? He doesn't have
nearly as much going for him as I do." The answer is simple: She was more
sexually attracted to him than you. And that is it in a nutshell. Single women
are choosing men just like men choose women - by sexual attraction. If a woman
is interested in you it is your sex appeal that got your foot in the door, and
now good sex will help keep you there.
Sex is a very powerful aspect of relationships. This is not to say sex is the
total element of a relationship, but we are saying that it plays a larger role
than people like to admit. Single women, just like men, will want to meet
someone or start a relationship with someone if they find that person sexually
attractive. And, as the relationship continues, good sex is often the strongest
glue that holds the two people together.
If it were possible to take an objective survey, we wouldn't be surprised if the
results concluded that many break-ups today stem from sexual dissatisfaction or
sexual boredom, and that partners leave the relationship because they are
looking for something better. More specifically, exciting sexual experiences.
Single women are leaving relationships because of this more so today than ever
before.
And what does all of this mean? What is the point of this all boiled down to one
sentence? If you want to be successful with single women, you'd better know how
to keep her sexually satisfied.
P.S. - This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book and the best book
ever written on succeeding with women called, "A Man's Guide to Women."
Don Diebel is one of the nation's leading experts on dating and relationships,
has been a guest speaker on several TV and radio shows, featured in print interviews, dating consultant,
and has helped thousands of men win at the game of love with his phenomenal best-sellers, "How to Pick Up Women in Discos," "The
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Don Diebel is President and owner of Gemini Publishing Co., which specializes in books, cassettes, and videos on how to succeed with
women since 1978.