The first thing to remember
is that when you "ask a woman out", you IMMEDIATELY start a whole chain of
mental and emotional events for a woman.
She has to decide if she "likes you" and if there could ever be anything
between the two of you... and if she's thirsty and interested in free beer.
You get my drift.
Women know when you're asking them "out out", as in you're asking them
because you have a "romantic interest".
Guess what?
When you do this it ALSO puts the woman in the driver's seat in the
situation, because she instantly realizes that she has something you want.
Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax"? It's when the price goes up the
more you want it.
Now, as you probably know, I don't generally think that it's such a great
idea to date women you WORK with, because you never know what's going to
happen, and the last thing you need is losing your job or having to work for
hours at a time in an uncomfortable situation.
And besides, attractive women usually have attractive FRIENDS, and if you're
cool, the women you work with can lead to an endless supply of dates. Think
it over.
You might want to think of it as a goose that lays golden eggs.
Even though I don't advise dating women you work with, I still want to
address your basic question of asking a woman out without creating
discomfort...
Remember, most guys do the exact same things. They start talking to a woman,
then say "Hey, can I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a boyfriend?".
This stuff is HORRIBLE.
It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you look like a wuss boy that
needs a girlfriend. And if she's not interested (which she probably won't
be), then it WILL create some discomfort in the future.
Much better to test first, then take a small step.
If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on her, and generally act like you
don't care. Make a comment about her and walk away. Be Cocky & Funny when
you're with her, and don't be boring.
Then, if she's responding positively (laughing, hitting you, telling you
that you're a pain, etc.), then say "Hey, do you have email?"
If she does, have her write it down, then say "Bye".
From a MAN'S perspective this might not seem any different than just asking
a woman out. But from the WOMAN'S perspective it's VERY different.
First of all, you've never shown her any romantic interest, which doesn't
give up your power in the situation, and hand it all to her.
Second, instead of putting "dating" pressure on her, you've only asked her
for her email address (and maybe her number as well).
But you HAVEN'T asked her on a date, you HAVEN'T created any kinds of weird
vibes in the air, and you HAVE made her wonder what you have in mind.
It's powerful, think about it.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of
hours you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all from
the comfort and privacy of your own home.
The
reason I wrote my original eBook "Double Your Dating" was because I wanted
to be able to help other guys out there to understand how to be successful
with women and dating... without having to go through all the hassles and
wasted time that I had to deal with.
I invite you to check it out.
I mean, you'll never reach a point where you never have any problems with
women, but you sure can prevent and eliminate about 80% of them by just
knowing what to do to set up each step with women, and how to respond to
certain situations.
If you'd like an introduction to my main concepts and techniques, then you
need to start with my eBook, Double Your Dating. It's the foundation for
everything that I teach in these articles, and it's a MUST-read. It's here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it. Talk to you soon, David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines: 1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max. 2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate
all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your
stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the
specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
different situations. 3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of
the email. I read these first. 4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're
from. 5) Send it to me at: SuccessStories@doubleyourdating.com
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