Most guys want to know
"what to talk about" with women. It only makes sense that you should talk
about things that women are interested in... right? Well... partially.
There are really two very
different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:
1. The How
2. The What
The How:
Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women. It only makes sense that
you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially.
It is actually far more important to talk about whatever topic you're
talking about in the right away. In other words, if you don't understand how to
carry on a conversation that creates attraction, then it really won't
matter what you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't feel
anything towards you.
The how of conversation includes (but is not limited to):
Your body
language
Eye contact
The Cocky &
Funny style of communicating
Flirting
Sending mixed
messages
Directing the
conversation
Dealing with
common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that
if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other
usual challenges, then you probably need to get the how handled before
the what.
The What:
With that said, there are several topics that are great to discuss with women.
But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and
THINK for a minute. What topics do women pay to hear about? Hint: Cosmo
magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious. For
whatever reason, women tend to love:
Drama
Conflict
Romance
Famous people
and their lives
So... it's really
quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.
Here are a few ideas: 1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars. Talk about how someone famous is
doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
For instance... right now, Michael Jackson is something like two hundred million
dollars in debt. Even though he makes about twenty million dollars a year, he
somehow manages to blow it all and then some. He has spent an unimaginable
amount of time and money on plastic surgery and skin bleaching... and he
reportedly just spent around seven hundred grand digitally darkening his skin
tone in a recent video.
This situation is all kinds of begging to be picked apart with a fine-toothed
critical mind. It's also pregnant with humor opportunities.
2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what's going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on
their first date. Then start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's
dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that
he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he
gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women
love it.
3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain
cells and what a shame it is that he's on TV broadcasting it to millions of
viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony
bin, and putting out a sucky movie. All you have to do is read a few gossip
magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of. It's fun, it's funny,
and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and
romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained
weight, then after you've told the story, make up a random theory about how
women who gain weight are actually lesbians.
But make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you can "feel me".
The point here is that women are naturally fascinated and drawn to certain
topics... so use them.
The real benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is
that you can use all the other ideas that you're learning while you're talking!
You can amplify the attraction as the conversation goes on... as long as you
know what else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic
books, Star Wars, monster trucks, and NSYNC. Never talk about topics that might
really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser
alive in the beginning.
You'll create bad
vibes that will make any attraction that you've created instantly disappear.
Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about
how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking
if she likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other wussie topic that
makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional
attraction between you and her. If you don't know how to do this, then nothing
you do is going to help you very much.
If you do know how and why women feel attraction for men, then almost anything
you do or talk about can amplify it.
I took the time to learn.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned
first.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it's also taken a
lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and on
audio and video... so that any guy can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of
hours you can learn things that it took me years to figure out... all from
the comfort and privacy of your own home. The
reason I wrote my original eBook "Double Your Dating" was because I wanted
to be able to help other guys out there to understand how to be successful
with women and dating... without having to go through all the hassles and
wasted time that I had to deal with.
I invite you to check it out. I mean, you'll never reach a point where you never have any problems with
women, but you sure can prevent and eliminate about 80% of them by just
knowing what to do to set up each step with women, and how to respond to
certain situations. If you'd like an introduction to my main concepts and techniques, then you
need to start with my eBook, Double Your Dating. It's the foundation for
everything that I teach in these articles, and it's a MUST-read. It's here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it. Talk to you soon, David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines: 1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max. 2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate
all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your
stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the
specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
different situations. 3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of
the email. I read these first. 4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're
from. 5) Send it to me at: SuccessStories@doubleyourdating.com
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