When you laugh everyone
laughs, when you can make HER laugh you can get her to date you!
One of the things that I discuss a lot is the
idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men while NOT feeling it for
others (even though the men that a woman feels ATTRACTION for might not be
good choices for her because they're abusive, etc.).
If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach goes something like this:
ATTRACTION isn't something that is logically chosen. ATTRACTION is basically
an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to certain cues and behaviors.
One of the things I've isolated that seems to cause women to feel this
magical ATTRACTION to men is the idea that I call being "Cocky & Funny".
This is simply using an arrogant style of humor when you're dealing with
attractive women that leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION for
you.
At seminars I teach I realized that several of the guys were having trouble
getting the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like ATTRACTION in
response to something as seemingly unrelated as making arrogant jokes
(especially about her) and making her laugh.
I mean, how COULD this possibly work?
I thought I'd take this article and talk a bit about why I think that
something so illogical could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some
specifics about how to do it.
First the "WHY"...
Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very different set of reasons than men
do.
Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM,
POWER, and several other more "intangible" qualities.
Women also love men who can make them laugh. And by watching a lot of guys
who are VERY good at attracting women, I've noticed a common pattern.
Most of these guys use a common way of communicating with women that
communicates the above qualities WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY THAT THEY
HAVE THEM.
I call this way of communicating "Cocky & Funny", and it's one of the
cornerstones of attracting women.
I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he triggers a primal response
inside of women that creates an instant emotional ATTRACTION.
This is because women come "pre-wired" with an internal template of what
comprises a desirable mate, and a set of emotional trigger buttons that,
when pushed, create that powerful emotional response called ATTRACTION that
compels her to mate with the man who triggers it.
Most men have no idea that this mechanism exists or how to trigger it, so
they do traditional "nice guy" things like buying dinners, gifts, and
flowers... and giving women compliments... and calling them all the time
(which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired effect when used too much,
and too early on).
As I got to know more and more guys who were REALLY GOOD with women, I
started to see that they weren't afraid to make fun of attractive women,
bust on them, and even challenge them... but it was always done in a VERY
FUNNY, even charming way.
At first I just assumed that it was the fact that this pattern was just a
technique that my friends were using to make conversation.
Only after really paying attention, trying out this technique myself quite a
bit, and LOOKING CLOSELY AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did I begin
to realize the UNBELIEVABLY POWERFUL EMOTIONAL RESPONSES that this one
concept was generating.
And after working on it, testing it, refining it, and studying the finer
points about women, men, and the whole "mating process" did I begin to
really understand how well this worked.
The concept is pretty simple:
1. Take an arrogant comment.
2. Add humor to make it funny.
3. Feel free to use this combination when poking fun at the woman you're
dealing with.
Here's a simple example:
Let's say you're walking down the street with a woman and she says "Wow, I
really like those shoes in the window" and you answer "You would".
Here's another one:
Let's say you're talking to a woman who's wearing a pair of shoes with four
inch heels, and you say "So what, are you about four feet tall without the
shoes?"
Get it?
You're saying things that are FUNNY while at the same time A BIT ARROGANT.
An added bonus that these two examples demonstrate is that neither one is
quite clear.
It's obvious that you're making fun of her, but it's not exactly clear what
you mean.
When you communicate like this, you communicate:
1. That you're confident.
2. That you're comfortable.
3. That you're intelligent.
4. That you're funny.
...which, of course, are all qualities that lead to a woman feeling
ATTRACTION.
Of course, most men wouldn't even THINK about saying things like this to a
woman that they find attractive because they fear REJECTION.
Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY for thinking that these kinds
of comments would trigger an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside of a
woman.
I can understand this, because when I first saw guys being Cocky & Funny
with women, I PERSONALLY couldn't believe that it was what was creating the
ATTRACTION.
But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.
And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how to cultivate the skill of
being Cocky & Funny, you'll notice an AMAZING difference in the way that
women respond to you.
You'll find that the more you refine and perfect the technique, the more
women will want to talk to you, be around you, and feel the uncontrollable
urges associated with ATTRACTION.
So here's the formula again: When you're in a situation with a woman, say
things that are both Cocky & Funny.
Let's say you're talking to a woman, and she says "Here, let me buy this
round of drinks".
You might respond by saying "Look, don't think that just because you buy me
a drink that I'm going to go home with you. I'm not that easy...".
Or maybe she mentions that she just started working as a waitress... and you
say "Well, that's a deal breaker for me, because I need a woman who makes
enough to support the both of us so I can pursue my life-long goal of being
a house husband".
Are you with me?
These are all FUNNY and at the same time ARROGANT.
One of the exercises that I recommend is to take some time and come up with
a whole bunch of Cocky & Funny comments that YOU can use in the most common
"real world" situations you find yourself meeting women in... and then
mentally rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind to use.
When you use this magical way of communicating with women, you'll find that
it often sparks an INSTANT sexual tension, and sets up a perfect interaction
between you and the woman you're talking to.
It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE that women just LOVE to
engage...
It not only sets you apart from other men, but as I mentioned, it also
triggers that wonderful emotion called ATTRACTION at the same time.
Double Bonus!
Of course, this is one part of a much bigger picture of how to use your
personality to create sexual tension and ATTRACTION from the VERY BEGINNING
of your interactions with women.
So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will
create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.
And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need
to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!
In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST,
and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I
HIGHLY recommend that you check out my online eBook "Double Your Dating".
You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes. Go and download
it here: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines: 1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max. 2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate
all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your
stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the
specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
different situations. 3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of
the email. I read these first. 4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're
from. 5) Send it to me at: SuccessStories@doubleyourdating.com
(c) 2002-2007 David DeAngelo, All Rights Reserved. By
accepting and reading this article you agree that: You understand this to be an opinion and not professional
advice, it is only to be used for personal entertainment purposes, you are solely responsible for any use of the ideas, concepts, and content and will hold David DeAngelo harmless.
http://www.doubleyourdating.com
