It is actually FAR MORE
IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT
WAY. In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation
that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about...
because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.
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There are really two very
different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
THE HOW
Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women. It only makes sense
that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially.
It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're
talking about in the RIGHT WAY. In other words, if you don't understand HOW
to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't
matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL
anything towards you.
The HOW of conversation includes (but is not limited to):
-Your body language
-Eye contact
-The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
-Flirting
-Sending mixed messages
-Directing the conversation
-Dealing with common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences",
nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the
HOW handled before the WHAT.
THE WHAT
With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with
women. But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a
favor and THINK for a minute. What topics do women PAY to hear about? Hint:
Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion
channel... etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.
For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
-Drama
-Conflict
-Romance
-Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about
these topics.
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars. Talk about how someone famous is
doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
For instance... right now, Michael Jackson is something like two hundred
million dollars in debt. Even though he makes about twenty million dollars a
year, he somehow manages to blow it all and then some. He has spent an
unimaginable amount of time and money on plastic surgery and skin
bleaching... and he reportedly just spent around seven hundred grand
digitally darkening his skin tone in a recent video.
This situation is all kinds of BEGGING to be picked apart with a
fine-toothed critical mind.
It's also PREGNANT with humor opportunities.
2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what's going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like
they're on their first date. Then start making fun of how the guy is acting,
how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is
thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many
compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women
love it.
3. Make fun of someone famous. Talk about how a super model is too skinny,
or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame it is that he's
on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for
gaining weight, being put in the loony bin, and putting out a sucky movie.
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great
stuff to make fun of. It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk
like you're all that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives. Talk about the problems that others
are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer
completely ridiculous theories about what's going on. Mention a friend you
had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain
weight are actually lesbians.
But make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you can "feel me".
The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain
topics... so USE THEM.
The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them
is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're
talking!
You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you
know what else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic
books, Star Wars, monster trucks, and NSYNC. NEVER talk about topics that
might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the
biggest loser alive in the beginning. You'll create BAD VIBES that will make
any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY disappear. Others to really
avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate
you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she
likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes
you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional
ATTRACTION between you and her.
If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you
very much.
If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost
ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.
And if you'd like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set
of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook
"Double Your Dating". You can download it and be reading it in just a few
minutes from right now.
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...and read it, learn it, and use it. Talk to you soon, David D.
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